Help - Toddler and Sleep

My two year old will not go to bed.. he can barely talk and doesn’t eat (late tongue tie revision, is in feeding therapy etc) He climbs out of cribs, pack n plays, breaks safety knobs off his door, won’t stay in bed, cries when I lay him in his bed. Idk what to do … can anyone relate? I’m thinking of putting the crib side back on and getting him those pajamas where they can’t lift their leg… I’m out of options. My husband and I are stressed out all the time. He’s a very high maintenance child.