Setting boundaries

Ashley • 36; #ivfsuccess 💙💓

How do you set boundaries with people who don’t listen? You like them, you love them, but you want your space. You want to be able to say yes or no and not be pushed but your not being heard.

I try different phrases I worked on with my therapist and they don’t seem to work:

“We appreciate your offer to do xyz, but we are not interested” - answer: don’t worry about it, it’s not a bother. Proceeds to push or do what we declined

“I will come get x item or you can bring it when we meet on y day.” Answer: don’t worry, I’ll just come now. Or said item just appears on your door step.

I’m moving and I know this is going to come up a lot soon with my mom because she is bored and needs to feel needed. I just want to be an adult/mother/wife and do things for myself that I know I’m capable of. And know that I have privacy and not look out my window and she’s there 😑