Can’t orgasm

So any time I have sex I do not seem to orgasm. I’ve been sexually actively for over 10 years and it’s always been this way. No wonder what my partner does. I do get turned on and stuff feels good but I never climax or squirt. Sometimes when I use my rose alone and keep it on my clit for a bit and squeeze my legs together I get this really good feeling but it only last a few seconds not sure if that’s an orgasm or not. I know I may sound dumb but I want to be able to climax during intercourse or at least head. He asks me all the time am I close to coming and I feel bad because I don’t want him to think he’s not pleasing me but it just never happens and never has with anyone. Help???