For those in genuine loving relationships how does it feel like to be loved?

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All I've had were shitty relationships and my recent BD who thinks he's the greatest bf and father even though he quit his job to avoid child support, let me raise his daughter alone, doesn't help me, called me names in the past, doesnt call me or his daughter just texts, stays under his mother at his big age of 43, I always had to go and drive to him so he could see his daughter ,is clingy and just a man child  ...he wants me to believe the bareminimum bs behavior he's giving me is true love. 
And I'll be hard pressed to find anything better. My parents don't treat me much better, yesterday my dad called me a hoe, a dumbass, an idiot, pathetic, ugly and much more ... 
Idk I just wonder what is it like to have a partner that genuinely loves you? Someone that's always there for you, someone that helps you with your problems or anything you need. 
What does that feel like because I have no clue. All I can do is imagine.

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I’m so sorry that this has been your experience. Just note, however, anytime a person makes negative comments towards you or treats you poorly, it actually has nothing to do with you. It is issues they have within themselves that they project onto other people to make themselves feel better.
A good partner is loving, supportive, caring, honest, respectful and one who appreciates you and what you bring to the relationship. Don’t ever settle for anything less. Life is too short to live unhappily.

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Ah, I'm so sorry that's been your experience. Those people are abusive and it's on them, not you. It's not your fault and you don't deserve it. 
Having a supportive, loving partner is truly amazing. It feels like having a huge warm hug, a giant safety net to catch you if you fall,  a rock solid foundation...lots of great things. You deserve that and it is absolutely possible for you. 🤍

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I just want to say, it's easy to repeat patterns and seek out guys who treat you the same way as your father. But you can unlearn this. You can go to therapy and learn to love yourself. Loving yourself will open you up to a partner who loves you. You deserve it.

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It’s the one thing in life that I’m TRULY the most thankful for. Every single day I just think to myself how lucky I am to have him. I could look my ugliest, act my ugliest, and he’s still there loving me through it all. I have a loving family but they could never love me the way he does. Me and our daughter are his whole world. He wakes up at 6 am to go to work, 5 to 6 days a week, and then comes home in the evenings with a smile still on his face and ready to help us in all the ways he can (and he works a tiring job). I feel guilty sometimes accepting all of his help! And that daughter of ours I mentioned? She was a foster child that I so badly wanted to take in and adopt, and he trusted me with that decision and immediately agreed to it when he saw how much it meant to me. We can have our own babies but just haven’t decided to yet, so it was such an amazing thing for him to do and he loves that little girl more than life itself. We’ve been together for 9 years now and not once has he ever called me a name or disrespected me. We for sure have our ups and downs but when I think about how fiercely he loves me, it makes the downs seems like nothing. I truly hope you find that, I want that for everyone!! So badly. We all deserve to be truly and unconditionally loved by someone. But you have to help yourself out too- know your worth and make good decisions. Do not settle for anyone who doesn’t make you feel truly loved and appreciated. If you can stay true to those promises for yourself, you will find your person! I’m hoping for the best for you🤍

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Ngl pretty good but shit 10/10 would recommend

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I'm sorry you've been through this. I promise good men exist and you will find someone who cares about you and will love you in the future. 
I've been very blessed to be in a healthy and loving relationship. I do think though, you can be in a stable relationship only when you have that relationship with yourself. You have to value your self worth and have high standards for yourself. 
If you don't have clear boundaries or have a loving relationship with yourself, then you won't know what to expect from a partner, or you will tolerate mediocrity.
Practice self care and love, always improve yourself and you will attract the right man.

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I’m sorry this has been your experience. I promise there are good guys out there somewhere. 
For us, we were friends before we had a relationship together. So for us, it was natural. We are goofy ,can be weird together. But we try to sit and talk with each other rather than bottle anything up. It took us a long time to get there, but we got there.  It’s been 11 years and just when you think you know a person you find out that they’re constantly changing like you so things are constantly new. ￼We love that about each other. I keep him on his toes more than our kids do. He keeps me guessing because when I thought I knew him he changes and I have to learn him again. 
Sexually: we try to spice things up every now and again. At one point watched adult videos together. We don’t want that taking a toll since we both have semi high sex drives. 
We have been together 11 years and married 6 years next month. Honestly its been some rough patches but we stopped and just talked through them.

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Greetings beloved Brittany,
Love isn’t something a person does, but how they feel towards an object or person. Sri Param Eswaran states, first you need to forgive your mom/father as no one taught them to be parents. Then you forgive yourself as you weren’t taught to be their child. It’s a paradigm that you appear to mimic within your relationships that’s rooted in the feeling of lack that you’re continuously manifesting it. Like you expressed you’ve only encountered tumultuous relationships. 
In order to experience absolute love one must first cultivate an intimate relationship with themselves that’s inwoven with the Goddess or whomever you pray to. There you will remember your true essence (who you are)—a reflection of the Goddess within. 
Being able to imagine love is a beginning step, but what are you doing to generate healing? Unknowingly your father stated you have a womb of light, as whore is derived from hor meaning womb. 
Words have the power to create and so do your thoughts. Ask yourself, why do you feel forced to bring your children to their father when you’ve mentioned he seemingly makes no effort to do so? Are you reliving the cycle of unhealthy relationships and boundaries? It seems you didn’t receive enough within your own father-daughter dynamics. It’s not a force, as it is the opposite of love and generated from fear. There on only two emotions in world and  everything else is a derivative of either love or fear. Therefore, you cannot experience REAL love in fear. Its going into the darkness or our inner most selves that we are reborn. I wish you love and the unveiling of yourself, it’s truly a sacred journey. Once you’ve taken it see the type of relationships you begin to attract.

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It feels amazing i have that in a best friend. He tells me all the time. Everyone deserves to feel loved and appreciated.

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It feels like you’re valued & seen.
First way to get that, don’t give it up until marriage. No real man would date for sex. We have all seen the outcome of hook up culture, there’s no commitment, no sacred respect, no short or long term goals.
Sex is supposed to be intimate & too many people out here being intimate with whoever whenever for whatever. Sex is easy. 
If women continue to be easy men continue to use that against them. They get what they want & walk away. He didn’t pursue, he didn’t work, he didn’t earn or show respect… & that’s most men.
It’s the culture.

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