Soooo frustrated

My 2 year old son hit his head on my window and started fussing a little. I went to comfort him and my bd starts yelling at me not to. I’m like I can’t hug my son? he starts basically saying he’s a boy so I don’t need to comfort him or he will grow up to be a “pussy”. I hate him with my life I’m so ready to just be done with him. He keeps saying “that’s why ur 2 yr old steps on you”. What 2 year old doesn’t know how to handle their emotions?? It’s normal and he don’t get that cause he’s never around.