I’m curious if anyone else has had this happen to them and could share some ways of dealing with this.

So my husband and I shared the news that we were pregnant to our immediate family only and requested that no one tell anyone or post it on any social media until we were through the first trimester and were comfortable with other people finding out. My FIL immediately told his brother and my MIL kept saying “well that’s not going to happen” and kept making jokes as if that was something to joke about. I later found out while I was away for work that we received a Christmas card from one of my MIL’s friends congratulating us on our new addition. Which is shocking considering we made it quite clear how important it was to us for them to keep it to themselves until we were ready. My Husband immediately told them how wrong they were and that they completely disrespecting our wishes; however, I’m still mad about it and hurt by it. I want to tell them how I feel but my husband thinks it’ll make things worse and told me he “handled it”. They’re older (in their late 60s early 70s between the two of them) and think they have all the answers - my MIL mainly. As much as I’m not trying to make things worse, I’ve already have my walls and defenses up because I feel like this is just the beginning.

It’s their first grandchild and I get that they are excited but it is OUR first child and the baby is currently in my body. So if god forbid something was to happen, I would have to mentally, physically and emotionally go through that personally, not my mother in law. I’m hurt and mad that they deliberately disrespected our wishes despite me communicating this to them and now I’m dreading Christmas Day because I want to speak my mind about the situation but trying to keep my mouth shut for my Husbands sake since he has said something already.

I just feel like this is just the beginning.