3 year old aggressive with other classmates

Do you spank or hit her when she doesn’t listen? It kind of sounds like she’s imitating whatever correction she gets at school with the other kids.

If you panish her when she gets home, she'll have zero clue as to why she is punished. She's 3. She can't remember what happened four hours ago.She's acting out for a reason. Does she have anything that could point towards a possible diagnoses of some kind? Are there specific situations where this happens? How is she at home and when you're out with family and friends? Is she agressive then? If not, it might be the school that's the problem.

Sounds like shes imitating how shes disciplined...

Do you hit her? If so you need to stop that yesterday. Obviously.At home, there needs to be immediate consequences for hitting. She hits a cousin she’s immediately in time out or whatever.At school, there also needs to be immediate consequences. Talk to them about a plan to address it there.

It definitely sounds like she is imitating her home discipline. Which is something you should sort out if that’s what’s happening because if she’s being hit to get her way or to be punished it’s hard to explain to her that that’s not how she’s allowed to do things. But it also sounds like she’s trying to “help” and “enforce” and be in control. I would work on at home having some things she can have control over and some jobs that are hers to help with to let her have some ownership over some things that aren’t other kids. I also would explain, and maybe even take a few days off work and ask if you can come in to watch and monitor her behavior to try to help correct it. Then I would explain to her in those moments that you see that she is trying to help and is upset when she sees someone not listening to her or to the teacher but it’s never ok to hit and it’s not her job to make the other students do things- it’s the teachers job and HER job is to be a good example for her friends and do what the teachers asks and encourage her friends with her words and to learn and whatever else they focus on at school. Help her to understand what IS her job and what is not.

Sounds like she's imitating the way she's disciplined at home

Do you or anyone hit her if she doesn’t listen

Needs to see child therapy and needed to see a Dr.

Someone is quite obviously hitting her when she doesn’t listen I’m assuming it’s either you both or someone in the familyShe’s being taught hitting is ok because someone hits her

I work in a daycare and I feel like kicking a child out for just hitting other kids is a bit much. Hitting is a normal 3 year old behavior. Is she leaving marks when she is hitting? Are the other kids scared of her? Is she hitting the teacher? Is she saying inappropriate things? I feel like you should talk to the teacher and find out if there are other things going on as well.