I’m asking if it’d be wrong to just not let the baby’s father watch me give birth. I don’t feel 100% comfortable with him watching me push a kid out, I mean if he wants to watch me in pain maybe but I just don’t think him watching me give birth is something I can wrap my head around right now. I’m due to be induced on the 30th and I’m 35 weeks. This whole pregnancy he hasn’t been around, or even attempted to get anything for the baby this far. We already have a daughter (6) and he’s not really there for her lately either which makes me feel so sad/bad for even having kids with him at this point. As far as I know he’s out living the single life, getting drunk every weekend, not going home (lives w his mom) and doing whatever he wants as if he doesn’t have kid(s). I mean it’s fine I can’t do anything about it but this is just reasons I don’t feel it’s worth him even trying to be there all of a sudden when they induce me.

So would I be wrong to tell him I don’t want him watching me give birth? What would I even say? He wasn’t there to watch or be around with our first daughter since he was in jail when I was pregnant and had her, so I feel like he thinks he has an opportunity to be there this time, but his priorities throughout my whole pregnancy this time hasn’t even been myself or the baby. What should I do?