Our 2 year old keeps waking up in the middle of the night. We have a newborn so I can’t do anything about it cause I’m constantly feeding, so husband has to take care of toddler in the middle of the night. He usually goes and sleeps with him but occasionally he wakes up at 3am and never goes back to sleep until 7am. It’s been brutal, especially with a newborn too.

My husband is understandably frustrated and resorted to putting on a show for him in the middle of the night to get him to stop crying, because sometimes on these nights he just cries and cries and keeps us all awake. We can’t escape the crying because our house is very small.

We also have a 6 year old.

I’m frustrated because I do NOT want a show going in the middle of the night I think that is crazy and incredibly lazy to do and making the problem worse! I tell my husband not to do that but he gets annoyed at me. He also goes and drives him around to get him to go to sleep and I don’t like that ether. He’s making the issue worse I think by stimulating his brain and keeping him more awake.

I’ve been somewhat lax about all this but still making my opinion known. Up until now I’ve been the one to handle middle of the night toddler waking up while my husband sleeps peacefully, and now he’s dealing with what I was because I can’t anymore since having a newborn, they both want me at the same time. Can’t be away for more than 10 mins before newborn wants me and he does not want my husband. I’m trying not to judge his way of coping with it all because it’s new to him, and my method of dealing with the night wakings wasn’t great ether because I just held him and rocked him until my arms felt like they were falling off.

My husband stays up until 3am gaming sometimes and then right as he’s about to come to bed toddler wakes up and he’s stuck dealing with him all night, getting no sleep. I think he’s wrong for doing that too, just making it worse for himself.

He gets so frustrated and past his patience limit that he occasionally checks out completely and leaves me with the newborn AND crazy toddler. Says “sorry it’s all on you tonight I can’t handle this anymore.” He will get up and help after he just needs a long break but holy crap I can’t do it ether.

He says to me that he sucks at this and im just better at it. How can I help my husband not be so irritated? I know how he feels.

Also, I usually get the toddler back to sleep after an hour or 2 on the really bad nights but this 3-7am thing is new because I think my husband makes it worse.

We are so exhausted. Does anyone have any tips? Our toddler is non verbal, wont look at us, wont communicate with us much as well. I am wondering if he has some sort of sleep disorder or neurological issue at this point.