Was with a guy 5 years, engaged twice-I could never actually bring myself to marry him. He love bombed tf out of me on a regular basis, made empty promises and told me things take time (having stability). I tried to break up with him many times early on because he was showing anger issues (punching tvs, holes in walls, treating strangers bad, disrespecting boundaries). I never liked the way he would get with my child from a prior marriage (your child language when we had arguments, and told her things like you can’t be my child or I’d give you an ass whopping, he pointed out every little thing she did wrong -MOST TIMES) we had babies and everything went ever further left, FAST. He wasn’t helping with his kids at all, not financially, not physically.

He also hit me when I was third trimester pregnant with my boy, and spat in my face. I’m a fool for ignoring red flags, I get it.

He wants to throw in my face now that he’s dating a pharmaceutical professional who is very educated and peaceful.

I was blamed for our situation failing time and time again. I was not affectionate like that towards him because of the trauma and wanting out. I tried so many times but deep inside I just felt dead. I thought I had breast cancer and he didn’t show or offer any support with the kids.

I just find it hard to believe he ever was a genuine person. We all define love differently but thoughts? Was I used by a con-man?