I have two friends who have had crushes on me. I recently started to like them both. Both of them are currently in relationships as far as I know. Both of them are poly and so am I. One of them(call him A) was attempting to start a relationship with someone who is also poly last time I checked, which was two months ago. I don’t know if A is still with them because I haven’t talked to A in a while because he never uses his phone and i rarely use discord. (Which makes me wonder if it is worth it to date a guy who I can’t talk to often). I don’t know if the guy the other friend (call them B) is dating is poly. If B’s boyfriend is poly or accepting of B’s polyamory, I can ask B on a date. And B sometimes uses labels during the talking phase and never tells me that they aren’t together anymore until I find out they’re seeing someone else and the past bf was only around for a week while they were testing a relationship out and doesn’t want to be just friends.

So in theory I can ask them both out but A might be distant because we don’t talk a lot now and it might not improve, and B’s partner might not be chill with us. And if I ask, who’s to say either of them still like me? Because they both were like “hey I kind of like/have liked you” then started a relationship immediately after without actually acknowledging what they told me or anything and I was like ???? Are you not going to ask me out or anything???? Just tell me you like me as soon as I become single then find someone else to date before we get a chance to talk about it????

Do I ask either of them out? Do either of them still like me?? Should I ask them both out??? At the same time or pick whichever one first???? If I date them both, what do I tell my parents????? AHHHHHH?????????