I feel like im drowning.

Ive been married for almost 8 years. We have two kids, 3 and 1. I am unhappy, and ive asked for changes many times from my husband and things change for a few days and then it goes back to how it was. I dont feel connected to him. I dont feel any love coming from him. He doesnt tell me im beautiful, he doesnt compliment me, ive asked him to plan date nights for us and he doesnt. Hes always on his xbox every night until 12-1 in the morning and doesnt come to bed with me. I feel like ive just shut down and am so unhappy and numb. I asked him if he'd go to counseling and he doesnt want to. We bicker constantly. I dont want this to he the marriage our kids see and grow up with. I dont know what to do💔 i feel broken.