I’m struggling.. my marriage is decent, my husband is overall supportive and a good person and helps out a lot at home. BUT he has a short fuse and is not very emotionally mature. He gets angry and nasty toward our newborn baby and I just don’t get it. If the baby is crying and having a hard time latching the bottle he will just say “fuck it don’t eat then” and leave the baby screaming instead of consoling and helping the baby. He makes our baby cry more and screaming really loud like he never does with me. I’m trying to say ok… I know he struggles with anger, he’s a first time dad, women are generally better with babies than men… but it really upsets me. I just end up doing all the baby care because it hurts too much to see him treat our tiny baby like that. I’ve tried talking about things but then he just blows up at me. At this point I’ve just accepted I have to do basically all of the baby care, always the one to console him, always the one to do his changes and help him when he cries. It makes me sad my husband isn’t improving this or caring. I am certain he realizes he is acting like this but it’s like he doesn’t care. I don’t want my child to be afraid of his fathers anger or damaged and scarred by his nasty nature when the child isn’t acting “perfectly.” If I bring it up he blows up at me. What can I do? I don’t want to leave the marriage. He’s not violent or anything. It’s just a nasty demeanor and short fuse. Ughhh I hate that this taints our otherwise happy home. I want the best for my life and my child’s life. I wish he would work on himself and not take out his anger and irritation at a vulnerable baby… my heart breaks over it 😔