Hey everyone. So for some background me 26f and my fiance 29m are kinda in a stand still. We have a 18 month old and idk if its just me or both us are having issues. Like we barely spend time together anymore. We like to watch movies and shows together but now its always about what he wants to watch/do and when he wants to. When its what I'd like its not important. Another big thing is I've been planning our date nights since we started dating (3 years now) and im just tired. Im tired of putting in all this effort and not feeling appreciated. I think I want to go to couples counseling cause I like having a safe space to talk but he automatically thinks thats the end then. I guess what im asking if maybe im overreacting? How do I go about telling him how I feel.

Edit i guess I could add that we have no romance currently in our relationship like It feels like now that he has me, he doesn't have to try. Sex life is kinda there but its not attentive and not really enjoyable. He teases me so much that even if he does compliment me it feels like a joke to me.