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My husband and I never go on any dates or trips. Most times we are just home with the kids or I am working. I don’t have many friends, definitely none to take any trips with. My husband has a family member that wants him to leave and go to Detroit and Florida apparently all this weekend out of nowhere. On my two days off work. It’s not that I don’t want him to go exactly, I’m just salty mostly because we never go anywhere and I don’t go on any trips or outings even in the state. I don’t have anyone offering to take me on free trips or have fun. We just don’t have money or babysitters for 4 to travel, so as a family l, we don’t do much at all. As a couple, we don’t do anything either to be honest not even at home except chill. Again, this trip is free, but just for him. Not the family. We’ve been married for awhile. I’m not trying to be a brat. In ways I want to say just go but being honest I just feel some kind of way. If I told him to go, it wouldn’t be an all in yes. 🤷🏽‍♀️ if I say I don’t agree with him going, it’ll be a lot of attitude @, but he wouldn’t go. I need some input.
UPDATE: I am allowed to have feelings. Just like you all and I don’t judge for them. You don’t have to like it but at least I can be honest with my husband instead of lying about it. Just telling him I’m happy for him to go, and I’m not. Some of the comments are saying “I’d want to go” or “you’re bored” and it’s annoying. Learn to read. I also said it’s not that I didn’t want him to go. All I do is work and take care of my kids. I’m pregnant 🙄. We don’t have a car. And 4 KIDS. We “suggest” things to do all the time together and they don’t happen. So yeah again I’m allowed to feel. For the info, he is going. And my feelings haven’t changed. But yes I gave my half approval. There are a lot of honest and supportive comments (thank you) but just as many rude unnecessary ones. (No thank you) I don’t have a lot of friends i can talk to so I though I’d come here, from time to time,for honest opinions from people I don’t know, yes but SUPPORTIVE ones. ✌️

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I'd let him go and tell him to enjoy it. You never know when one day you might get some opportunity where he will get the dud end of the situation.  If you don't let each other have these opportunities, you'll just end up holding each other back and building resentment. Now, if he gets these offers all the time and you don't, then that's a different story. But this sounds like a one-off that doesn't come around often for him.

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That would be a big nope for me. If you don’t get to get away and have fun, why should he? In marriage, you suffer together. 😉 
Lol that may sound sarcastic but I’m serious. It’s unfair.

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I’d let my husband go. He goes out alot more than I do. Stop being salty. If it’s free for him let him go. He shouldn’t have to be in the house all day bc you are. If you got the chance you’d go out too so why cant he

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I tell my husband to do things for himself all the time. Is it always proportionate/fair? No, but I don’t believe in keeping score in a healthy relationship.

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I'd tell him to go and have fun. It isnt his fault the opportunity didn't happen for you bur think how mad you'd be if you got this chance and he was being all salty and petty about it. If you are tired of chilling at hone suggest things to do without travel. Go on a picnic, hike, weekend drive, museum, whatever. It won't be a real vacation but sounds like you are bored at home...so get out of your home.

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If you can’t afford it, I would just say that. Maybe something like “I’d love for you to be able to go, but can we afford a trip like that? How much will this cost? If we are spending money on a trip, I think it would be best if it’s something our whole family could enjoy.” 
But is the concern actually about affordability, or is it just you wanting to go on trips and maybe feeling a little jealous that he has someone who invited him out and you do not? And he doesn’t invite you anywhere either? 
Either way, when you have a family, you can’t just leave for a trip whenever you want. You have to ensure that there is childcare, your partner won’t be overwhelmed, and you can afford it.

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