Long Distance Relationships Advice!

Hi there!

So my bf of 1.5 years is going away for 1 year for his last internship for his doctorate. I am soooo incredible proud of him but also feeling so sad about how he’ll be gone.

I’d go with him but I was offered a new job that’s a lot higher in pay with a sign on bonus and yearly bonus as well as frequent raises. I know because I used to work here before and they want me back!

Him and I agreed that I should take the job in the city we are in now because it’s an AMAZING opportunity and I want to work there! We both agree that 1 year away is temporary and he wants nothing more than to come back to me and this city he loves.

I guess where I’m so torn about is that he’s going to a new city that he absolutely fell in love with the first time he visited, his favorite sports team is there and what if he gets offered a great job there? Then what?

What if he feels that he is content with my absence and rather not come back and not be with me anymore? What if he finds someone there that’s closer that he magically falls in love with and forgets me?

I feel so torn because I got into this relationship with him knowing he could move away…but I entered it because I love him and the past 1.5 years of us being together have been nothing short of magical. We never argue, we are so close and our relationship is so strong and NOTHING like any of my previous relationships. I’ve never felt love like this before and I don’t want to let it go.

Though I feel we are so strong together my anxiety won’t let me relax and only lets me believe that we are just going to break up because either 1. He’ll fall out of love with me, 2. We both don’t wanna quiet our jobs or new job opportunities open up for us and we have to be apart or 3. My trauma from past relationships will drive me insane that will then push him away. He’s never gave me an inclination that I am not his dream girl. He treats me so well always puts me first!!

But I guess I’m mostly ranting here but I’d LOVE advice on how to calm my anxious heart and what helped you during a long distance relationship to strengthen it?

Thanks for reading!