She said Lizzo is heavy. What is body positivity?

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I was in a town fundraiser as a way to network and get to know the people in his town as I try and grow my business. 
My primary career is fitness and social media so it's common for people to approach me for tips and workouts and such.
That's how (A) came up to me, she said she's wanted to ask for some gym tips.
We got to talking and she told me she had lost a whopping 100 lbs. She mentioned she had been a heavy girl, kind of like Lizzo and she's now feeling so healthy and energetic. 
Another lady (K) overheard, and said "Excuse me, body-shamimg is not funny. You could do a lot of damage to someone. Who are you to say Lisso is heavy?" 
A said "Oh, I'm actually talking about myself and how I lost a lot of weight and want to continue to get healthier", K responded saying that it's women like us who set unrealistic standards of what beauty should be, and we're teaching girls that you can only be beautiful if you're skinny, and how fat shaming is cruel. And why it would do us some good to learn some body positivity.
I said "Mam, this is a personal conversation and we're not shaming anyone." She said to me "You have no right to comment, you are surgerized to look like a slut." My jaw dropped, I responded "Oh, so name calling and slut-shaming is body positive?" 
Look I've been very open about my plastic surgery and am well aware that a body like mine may trigger a lot of people but I in no way try to impose my lifestyle on anyone. 
K said we will traumatize our kids with this toxic thinking. And A responded that if body positivity means yay-saying unhealthy habits, she wanted no part in it, and since K was all up in her business, yes in fact she was teaching her daughter healthy eating habits and exercise since she from experience knows what is on the side of being morbidly obese and no amount of criticism can take away the fact that now she can go riding with her daughter and is feeling 20 years younger and yes, on top of that she feels more beautiful.
 A lot more was said, but now I want to ask. What is body positivity? Because it seems that if you're a person who cares about their health and appearance that's somehow the evil enemy of body positivity. And it feels like the only people who get triggered are the people doing nothing about it. K is in fact a very heavy person but I would've never even noticed if she hadn't been so nosy and harsh.
It's been hard making friends in this new town and now I have this negative connotation as well.

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It’s sort of hypocritical to be upset about being called a name, when you referred to your new town as suburbia full of snotty Karen’s with balding big bellied husbands. Lol

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I’m not sure I’m up for two weight topics in one day. I’m not going to lie, I don’t love the downvotes while discussing my eating disorder. 😒
Body positivity is literally just what it sounds like. Working towards being positive (or at least neutral) about one’s own body, and others bodies. It can also be about challenging stereotypes, and outdated medical ideas. It does not mean one can not engage in athletics, have cosmetic surgery, or have a body that is typically considered attractive. 
That lady sounds more than a little off, I’d disregard her input. For the sake of argument and an example though exactly what was said matters. 
“I’m feeling really good about my weight loss and body shape right now, plus my doctor is saying I’m healthier. Previously I was about Lizzo’s size just to give an idea” that’s fine. Nothing negative or shaming is being said. 
“I’m feeling really good about my weight loss and body shape right now, I’m not fat and unhealthy like Lizzo anymore” would not be body positive. It’s negative about another person’s body, and lacking in information for her health and how she feels. It’s also just kind of mean. 
I have some experience with this, and people who make fitness a profession. 
One personal trainer caused me to relapse into not eating again. I absolutely was not upset by her body type at all. However, she said some really awful and negative things about my body, and bodies in general. I’m not much of a let me speak to your manager type, but I regret not contacting her supervisor so she doesn’t hurt anyone else.
I’ve been to several other trainers/physical therapists over the years. They’ve otherwise all been fine. I prefer the focus to be kept on what my body can do, and realistic goals, as opposed to generic societal standards of attractiveness. I also recognize that my goals are mine, and may not be other’s goals without judgment.

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Being obese is not healthy or beautiful and people have the right to feel proud for over coming it. Jumping into some one else’s conversation getting gym tips is just weird. 
Should we teach our children life habits or normalizes being obese? No I want my kids to live a long healthy life. Being obese comes with major set backs. Do I think obese people should be shamed or treated poorly no but let’s not pretend it’s healthy or worse something to aspire too. I have been both obese and very fit.  She was using someone she thought looked like her to describe where she was at at one point. Visual aid.

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I think it’s best if people stop assuming anything based on anyone else’s body type. 
Body positivity is loving your body at every size. FULL STOP. 
Weight and health are not synonymous. Whether you’re fat or thin. 
It’s NEVER appropriate to comment on anyone’s body. Never. This is a hugely toxic thing society thinks is fucking normal.

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Lizzo is fat/heavy and she admits it with confidence. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I love Lizzo.
Anyway, the person who interrupted is weird. Keep your nose out of other people’s conversations. Nothing was said with malice nor was it body shaming.

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I just think we need to stop using fat or heavy as a negative thing
They are descriptive 
In no way do they mean unhealthy, ugly, disgusting, etc 
I just don’t think fat should be considered an offensive word

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Body size is not an indicator of health. Period. The end.

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What does K being a heavy person have to do with your story?  Really, you might want to reflect on your own biases.
“Body positivity refers to the assertion that all people deserve to have a positive body image, regardless of how society and popular culture view ideal shape, size, and appearance.
Some of the goals of the body positivity movement include:
Challenging how society views the body
Promoting the acceptance of all bodies
Helping people build confidence and acceptance of their own bodies
Addressing unrealistic body standards
Body positivity is not just about challenging how society views people based upon their physical size and shape, however. It also recognizes that judgments are often made based on race, gender, sexuality, and disability. 
Body positivity also aims to help people understand how popular media messages contribute to the relationship that people have with their bodies, including how they feel about food, exercise, clothing, health, identity, and self-care.
By better understanding the effect that such influences have, the hope is that people can develop a healthier and more realistic relationship with their bodies.”
Lots more & the history here: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-body-positivity-4773402

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Some of y’all need hobbies or a fucking life… I couldn’t imagine being so bothered by another persons size/weight. Y’all just take every opportunity possible to fat shame.

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I wouldn’t say that was body shaming, I see body positivity as liking/loving your own body, but I also think that everyone big, small medium, whatever, to want to do better for their body which may mean exercising, eating healthier, really just anything that improves your body.

She said Lizzo is heavy. What is body positivity?

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