New here with army dh and low count.

Sk

Sk
Anyone else in the same boat as I? Dh has 1 million sperm motility. He goes to the urologist next week. We quit trying trying after many months of bfn's and false hope with false positive and late af. He's military so he's just now being able to get an appointment. The only thing is, as bad as I want to be a mother and he a father, he is deploying in June to Afghanistan, 5 months from now to the most dangerous place there since he is infantry. So if I do get a bfp before he leaves, I will be experiencing pregnancy by myself and I want it to be a bonding experience for both of us since we are ttc baby #1. What do you guys think? As much as he would want to be apart of the experience, he wants to start trying trying again after he gets another test done at the urologists. The way he explained it to me was, "If I don't come back, I want you to be the mother of my child even if I'm not around." Any opinions? Advice? Thanks!(:
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El

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My husband was working out of town when I was pregnant with my son he was gone for 6mos and just did make it back for the birth. I had a good support system at home which made things better. My dh is not really the most um attentive in the world so he wasn't going to hold my hair or make midnight craving runs in the first place. He has since changed jobs and will hopefully be there this time around. I hope you have peace which ever way it goes. Good luck.

Sk

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Thank you! I think it's the right thing to leave it in His hands and don't try any medical steroids to help with conception.

So

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That makes a lot of sense. Good luck, Hun!

Sk

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I agree with wanting it now. We've been trying for a year now and no luck. But his deployment is from 6-9 months which if I got pregnant this month, he won't be here for the birth. He won't be there to feel the kicks, hold my hair for morning sickness, or the ultrasounds and cravings.(; I might just be acting a little selfish because I want him here to be there with me for the milestones of our first child. I know I married him knowing this would be something that could happen, but now that's it's happening, I hate it. I think we just decided to let it happen if it happens. If God wants him to be absent and fighting for our country while our little one is fighting to see the world, so be it. It'll just be tough on both of us. I just don't want him to look back and be upset because he wasn't there....

Mo

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My husband is in the coast guard and will be leaving soon for deployment as well. He won't be got but for a few months though but probably for a whole trimester. It's tough but I hope I can get pregnant before he leaves because when I want things I want them now lol

Ki

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I think he's a very sweet man who obviously loves you very much and that is very precious. You guys are obviously meant to be. Everything will be ok. Apart from that, I have no 'advice' (for lack of a better word), sorry. Keep strong. Hold faith and love. I wish you both nothing but happiness x

So

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Wow. That's tough. If it were me, I'd wait. Pregnancy can be nerve racking. I think I'd want my man as close as possible. Maybe you just say - if it will be, it will be - and leave it up to a higher power.