Advice

Ciara
Ok so i am new to this but i would like some non biased advice. I met this man at work and ee hit it off right away. We have great chemistry not inly sexually but also emotionally. He wasnt honest in the begining about his past but i forgave him. There was also a rumor about him having a sexual relationship with another employee before me which he denied. I am a very jealous person so this still bothers me. 
​Also we have a 12 year age difference and he speaks to me like im a child and speaks to me very disrespectfully in front of people but does not understand that it hurts me. He says i just need to toughen up. He also wont commit to anything he asks me to move in but never brings it up again and he does this with anything involving us acctually making plans together like a weekend away. He is also very secretive about his life and wont open up. 
​I feel like i am wasting my time and on the path of getting hurt. I have tried to talk to him but nothing changes. I have been hurt a lot in the past and haventried really hard to let my insecurities go and past mistakes. He says he loves me but im confused. Please help!!!!!