My husband wasn't even angry & was just being loud bc he's Hispanic & was across the room & went to the kitchen for a drink while still talking to me about nothing serious & he waved his hands around (like Latins do when they speak) and I flinched & got scared. He would NEVER hurt me but I got scared bc of the abuse from my dad. He was very understanding & comforting, but I could tell he was very hurt & upset that I became scared of him for a second. He didn't say it but I could see it. Does this happen to any of you?