Is virginity as big of a deal as people make it out to be? I'm 17 and want sex SO. BAD. I find it impossible to pleasure myself so I really think sex is what I need. My parents are very anti-sex and if they find out I want to have sex or if I have sex and they find out I will get kicked out of the house. Does having sex actually change anything about you? For example if you have sex can a dr tell just by looking down there?