What should I do?

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My boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 years. We are both 21. I am ready for marriage, have been for a while (a few years.) My boyfriend says he is no where near ready (maybe not even a few years from now). I try not to bring it up too much but it's just what I want soo badly. He says he feels bad for making me sad. 
I get mad whenever I see engagement photos or wedding photos of people my age or younger getting married or engaged because they have what I want so badly. If he isn't ready soon I don't think I can do it anymore. The last thing I want to do is break up with him because I love him sooo much but it just hurts my heart and I feel like a failure. I feel that way because these couples that are getting married who are younger than me or have barely been together both know what they want. And what they both know is that they want to be together forever. And I feel like I failed because I have been with someone for over 3 years and I can't get him to feel the same way. I want someone who knows what he wants and wants it at the same time as me. I have no idea what I should do. I don't think I can fully express how much I want marriage and how much it means to me and how much it hurts that I can't have it right now.
Obviously I'm not going to do something just because it got the most votes, I will do whatever I think is best. But I just want to know what other people's opinions are.

Sorry that this was long, I personally hate reading long posts so hopefully people actually read this haha.

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If you want to marry him so bad then why can't you wait yes it's hard but I feel like you want the wedding more than the marriage give him time your both young don't rush into it you have forever together

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Your only 21 don't be in a rush to get married , the longer you both are together the more you will learn about each other. My uncle and his wife dated for 7 years where high school sweet hearts and have been married for 2 years they are 26 now. I'm 22 and I'm waiting till I get a Lil older and get to know my SO more

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Marriage is thru thick and thin if you can't stay with him now thru the thick why would you marry him

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Honestly, I know there are a lot of couples who do get married young and manage to stay together, but look at all the statistics. Couples who meet young and wait to get married have happier and longer relationships than ones who rush in. Just because he doesn't want to marry you right now doesn't mean he doesn't see you in his life forever.

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You go through the most changes between the ages of 20-25 (You start thinking differently) In my opinion 21 is way too young to get married. You have the rest of your life! If you love eachother enough you will stay with eachother no matter what. Even if you don't have the "piece of paper" saying your married. It seriously doesn't feel any different from living with eachother.

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You marry someone because you want Him.not just to be married. You want to spend the rest of your life with Him not just somebody. You want HIS child.I wanted a family since I was 17.but the right guy appeared in my 30s.I'm not saying to wait so long but to wait for the man you love to be ready too.marriage is a really big thing not just for you but for him too.be patient. You are both really young.and because others do it doesn't mean you have to do it too.

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If you want to marry this man, wait. It sounds more like it's the idea of marriage you want, not necessarily with this guy. I was that way, rushed into it early (we'd been together 3 years) and my husband "didn't feel like he had time to get his crazies out before he was 'trapped' in a commitment." He cheated and left. 3 years dating, 3 years married,  and going on 3 divorced. ?

Marriage is wonderful, I imagine, with the right person. Don't be quick to jump into it or pressure him into it if he's not ready. He'll resent you for it.

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I know what she means because I always see ppl on my fb getting married/engaged and im forever alone lol(im single) but its not as bad as you want it. But u have a bf and I dont thats diff. Anyways I think u should discuss it and why he thinks hes not ready. Im barley 20 but I think that if u cant resolve this it will be an issue bcuz things will get bigger I mean ur gana feel guilty and so will he and so on. Marriage is a huge commitment but it doesnt have to be a nightmare

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You need to seriously talk about this with him. Honestly if you're considering leaving just because he's not ready to be married I'm not sure you two really need to get married...

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