Thoughts on not finding out gender..

I'm having issues with my family when I tell them I want to not find out what we're having for our second baby. A couple people are saying "so, how r we supposed to throw u a shower or get u gifts?" I'm trying to compromise because my husband wants to find out and thinks I won't be able to hold out and wait until the end. Who else has dealt with this / done this? What advice can you give me? I want to make this pregnancy special since it will be my last according to my husband LOL... Due around Aug 30th or so according to my Lmp- thx!