Do the good days outweigh the bad?

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DH and I have been together for 5 years. We have good days and bad days like most relationships but when its bad its bad! We seem to never get along, we never agree, we dont have the same beliefs or desires. 
Some examples of our major disagreements: (1)he wont celebrate any holiday at all. He said my mom and i are devil worshipping because we celebrate Halloween!! (2)everyday he says i need to get rid of my dog. Shes a rescued Chihuahua, 11 years old, whos legs were broken after being thrown out a car and are callused over where they broke, so she cant really walk. She has 4 teeth and lays in her bed all day. His reasoning "if you lay with dogs youll get fleas" and he thinks having a dog makes me a dirty person. (3)basically other than my BFF who lives in a different state I dont have friends because i cant go out. And its not that he wont let me or forbids me its that when i come home he wont talk to me for days because he feels that i told them all our marital problems. 
That all being said those fights happen maybe once month or on holidays. Also my BFF believes that his little-known actions (the ones you can only tell your BFF that happen) are signgs that Im being sexually and emotionally abused.
Every other day he treats me like a princess, he'll do my nails, we have date night, he cooks, he cleans, he pays all the bills my money is basically fun money. 
But are the big constant battles that wont really change worth it? I know some women live there life on egg shells about different things but when you meet them they are weak women who really need help and support to get away. When you meet me Im a big, loud, bubbly women and most people wouldnt believe 1/2 of the things we go through if they see it for themselves. 
My parents have already told me that whenever Im ready they will buy me a place and support me for as long as I need. 
All I wonder is it worth leaving? I know like any breakup Id end up missing him, id only think of the good things when im sad or lonely and if i came back to him id instantly remember the bad things.

The big question, years from now if I leave will I regret leaving him or if I stay will I regret staying?

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He sounds very controlling. Seriously who would say get rid of your poor dog!
Find someone who appreciates whole you.

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It sounds like you love him and he loves you, but not in a healthy way. He should tolerate the dog and accept it because you love the dog. You should invite him out more often. I don't see anything wrong with holidays but Halloween isn't a good holiday in my view. Maybe you can compromise with that holiday and talk more about It. Encourage him on other holidays by gifts and cooking or special martial pleasures. Lastly maybe you should ask him if he'd like an outside male dog. He sounds like he needs love and affirmation. Let him know you and his business is between you both. Don't bad mouth him to people. They aren't always genuine. Leaving isn't always the best thing. It doesn't fix it. Try to make things work and pray together as a couple. If it doesn't work, which I'm sure it will - then you can consider leaving . Best,MC

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I'm an orphan with no friends and no family.  Things can be shitty with my hubby but I have no choice, i am stuck with nowhere to go.  I have an extensive criminal history and I'm insane, so supporting myself is impossible because I can't get a job.
My point is..... You have parents that will buy you a place and support you????  Move out girl!  Anyone that says you're a devil worshipper for celebrating Halloween is a freak.  You should leave and be grateful your parents aren't dead.

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I think that you should talk to an outside source. Maybe a marriage counselor, if you go to chruch your pastor, and if you feel you need to talk to someone alone find a domestic violence counselor. Ask them if what goes on in your relationship is healthy, if they have suggestions as how to make it a healthy one.
As far as the holidays thats just silly. Jewish people marry Christians and they celebrate both maybe not 100% but I cant see them go around using derogatory words about their in laws for celebrating the different holiday. 
The dog thing is kinda childish, does he take care of the dog? Does he pay for the dog? If no then why is he so bent out of shape over the dog? And last you should be able to go out. If you bad mouth your relationship to others thats something you have to deal with and he has the right to get upset since that should be something you only tell a very selective few or nobody at all. But if you arent and he says you are with no proof then maybe hes telling his buddies. Its like they say if your husband accused you of cheating and your not then hes guilty. 
I had a friend who was in a similar relationship, after 10 years her husband hit her across the face. That was her wake up call, her and her kids left that night and she never looked back. Always remember that everything happens for a reason. If you choose to leave now it could be your heart getting you out of there before worse happens. 
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Do the good days outweigh the bad?

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