No spark

I would suggest you try to find that spark again, maybe do things that you guys did when you were in your honeymoon stages of your relationship. Go back to the time you were in love with him and see what has changed. I think that our hectic lives and also after having kids makes it difficult for us to connect with out spouses because we get caught up in so much daily, what worked for my husband and I was setting aside time once every 2 weeks or sometimes weekly for each other, we would go out somewhere, have date nights and stuff like that. We are married for 8 years and been together 11 years. We found ourselves in the same situation you are in now 2 years ago where we both realized we were more like friends and the spark between us was gone. We now have found that spark again. Wish you luck and hope you and your husband can work things out. 

If that spark is gone and you have tried to re light it... But nothing.  You need to do a service toy ourself and your husband.  Let go.  I know some people say work I your. Stay for the kids.  No.  You are not present in the relationship.   It happens.  We're not perfect.   But express to your husband that you just don't have those feelings anymore.   My husband  had a wife before me... And she cheated.  Which is her choice...but she never explained to him that she fellour of love.   Be honest and true 

I think you first need to figure why you don't have that spark for him Cheating is never the answer You had to have love him at some point But to be with someone for tens and not b in love what you doing girl It seem like counseling is not working I am not gone say leave him I believe in marriage biblical and making things work Imma just stop here