Ex boyfriend

I dated a guy for two years about 7 years ago. We met online, I was 18, he was 22. In the military. Survived his first deployment together, and dealt with a long distance relationship ship the whole time even when he was off deployment. I ended up breaking up with him when I was 19. He was deployed a second time and honestly it was too hard for me.

Tell me I'm wrong or whatever, but I felt like I couldn't keep pretending to him that I was happy, and then break up with him when he got home. He was angry. Understandably.

Fast forward 7 years. He has been married almost three years (I'm best friends with one of his friends that I met while we were dating, we stayed friends after he and I broke up). She is getting married next month and I'm her maid of honor.

She told me that he told his wife (who she is friends with too), that he wouldn't come to the wedding because I was going to be there. The only way he would was if I did not acknowledge him, speak to him, look at him, nothing.

It's frustrating because I've been happily in a relationship, and could care less about him, I'm happy he is married, but I'm frustrated that my best friend is having to stress out about him possibly not coming because he is mad that I'm there.

I told her the day was about her, and that he needs to get over it, and frankly I'd be pissed if I was his wife, and my husband were freaking out over an ex like he is.

It's going to be hard to avoid him, and idk what he expects me to do.... cover my eyes and pretend he isn't there??

Am I wrong for telling my best friend that she should talk to his wife/him and let them know that, to drop it and that it's not about them?