Anxiety Before Every Dr Appt?

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We lost our first baby last May at 6 weeks and I felt like I was grieving on and off for the whole 8 months. We are 11 weeks now and every time leading up to a Dr appt I have some really distressing anxiety and even dreams about bleeding. I hate it for me and for my husband (he's so good with it but I know it's scary for him to see me so scared). Plus I know it's not good for the baby! I've lost some symptoms and maybe I'm just having a normal pregnancy but I'm having blood work done tomorrow so I'm feeling the anxiety big time. At my first appt at 8 weeks they did a US and everything looked perfect but they did no blood work. I'm just so scared they're going to tell me the baby is not ok. Plus we just moved yesterday so it's a whole new set of Drs and I start my new job on Wednesday. It's just a lot at once and I was wondering what yall do to prevent or calm anxiety during pregnancy. What helps? What doesn't? Does anyone else feel it right before an appt? Thank you for this group it means a lot to know I'm not alone!

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I know exactly what you're going through and can 100% relate. I lost my first pregnancy at 9 weeks after hearing a strong heartbeat at 8 weeks. I was completely devistated and convinced after getting pregnant with my second that every doctors appointment would end in my finding out I had experienced another missed miscarriage. We have been very lucky so far and Monday will be 29 weeks with my rainbow baby, but I can tell you in my experience, I still worry almost daily that something will happen to my LO before delivery. When you go through the trauma of a miscarriage it's very hard to feel safe in pregnancy until the baby is born healthy. Know you are not alone and the struggle is real. You'll hear a lot of "try not to worry" which is easier said than done. At the end of the day we just have to take the best care of ourselves that we can and know that most of it is out of our control. Best of luck!!!

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Thank you all so much for your responses. It really helps. I think realizing that worry is just a part of pregnancy after loss and being ok with it will help. Knowing that it's normal and that I'm not alone in it is so helpful. Just so you know, we went to the doctor this morning and all was very well with me and the little munchkin! It was actually measuring a whole week ahead! It's so hard to tell when worry is just worry and when it's intuition you know?! Anyway, here's a photo!

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Omg yes I'm 27 weeks and still worry before each appt! I never got any pregnancy symptoms so I was convinced something was wrong. Even last week I was convinced something was wrong because unlike my friends who have been feeling their babies since like week 20 I wasn't feeling her at 26 weeks! Luckily all was well and finally at 27 weeks I'm feeling her more. I don't think the anxiety will go away until we are holding our babies in our arms. It gets a little easier with each milestone (relaxed a bit more after 24 weeks once she was viable.)

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Great picture! I have been anxious before each appt as well but when I notice the anxiety hitting, I try to do some deep breathing exercises. My favorite is to breathe in positive messages and breathe out the negative ones. That sort of reminds me that I've done everything I can to make this a healthy and successful pregnancy, then I say a prayer and talk to my baby. That usually calms me down. Good luck!

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Yes. Yes times one thousand.  My head and heart hurt before each appointment.  All I can think is the bad news will come out of their mouths and I will be once again powerless.  I am with you and sending them good vibes and prayers

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So sorry for your loss. I can completely relate. I have lost 3 pregnancies. My 2nd pregnancy I was so nervous, anxious, and scared. It sounds like you are doing well though and made it pretty far:) it's unfounded that after having a mc it's hard to enjoy any pregnancy. I plan on going on a mild anxiety medication soon to help me calm down the next time I get pregnant. I know it's not for everyone but you could look into it. Hugs and prayers. Take one day at a time;)

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Ohhh sorry for your loss last year. The good thing is that you are almost out of the first trimester and at this point, it's common to start feeling better and "losing symptoms". You are almost in the 2nd trimester which is kinda the honeymoon phase, where you will feel the best. It's absolutely understandable to be nervous, but try to relax. Maybe try to do an activity you enjoy, like reading, watching tv or movies or visiting with friends and family (you can even tell them it's a "no baby talk" visit if you want). Also maybe baths and gentle massage from your SO will help. Good luck mama!!!

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