Mother is embarrassed by me?..

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I got pregnant when I was 16, right before my 17th birthday. And my mom hated me after I told her. She is a very close minded person. I misscarried him later in the pregnancy before I had a chance to tell family members (grandparents,  cousins, ect.) I'm 19 now and she never wants me to talk about it to any family. She doesn't want to be known as the mom who had a teen that got pregnant.  But i feel like I shouldn't hide my baby from the world. I Named him. I held my stomach at night when I was pregnant. I loved him. should I still keep my pregnancy a secret? Or should I disrespect my mom and go ahead and be open about it?

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I'd tell her to eat shit! My mom wouldn't tell my step dad I was pregnant until I got married (Biggest mistake of my life!)

Miscarriage is something that needs to be acknowledged, mourned and come to terms with. You can't do that without talking about it and getting your feelings off your chest.

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Of course respect your mother, but in this case hell no! A part of the healing process is to talk about it not hide it from the world. I'm so sorry for your loss. I also misscarried, I was 15.

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YOURE AN ADULT, THAT BABY WAS A PERSON, IT'S NOT YOUR MOM'S DECISION!! If you want to talk about your baby, talk about your baby. That is your decision. You are her child and there is no reason for her to act like that. Especially if you had had the baby, she shouldn't have been thinking about herself and maybe thinking about the things you would be going through. These things happen, and parents should love their children no matter what.

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Can I say again that I'd tell her to eat shit?

Glow notified me about new comments... I looked and I'm mad all over again. It sounds like my own narcissistic mother. 😡😤😡

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My folks are the same way. I left the church they raised me in, moved in with my bf (been together two years), have premarital sex, and got two tattoos. All of which is a huge "no" for them.

They don't say it out loud, but I can tell they're embarrassed by me. They tell their friends at church that I work Sundays, and that I'm married - just to save them from the questions and judgement. But I don't let it get to me. Every choice I've made is a part of who I am and I'm not ashamed. You shouldn't be either :)

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For those of you that voted "keep it a secret because I'd be embarrassed too if I were your mother." Please tell me why. I want to know what my mother's mind set is as well.

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First of all you need love and support
Not shame,tell your family don't carry
This hurt alone. I find out when parent
Act like that) remember they have a past,no one is perfect! In life Iam up
Front with my girls! My beloved sister
You are young,beautiful and smart! This is a life lesson) hold your head up! You are loved by the most amazing man who walked on earth!
I call you blessed! Go out there and
Conquer the world

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I think you should be respectful and not just shout it from the rooftops but I also don't think you should hide it if you need to tal about talk

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Tell your family that's not right that she's bot supportive let her be close minded and tell your family whatever you want it's your life and it's your choice if people know not hers so what of age gets mad its her Ossie to deal with if she isn't going to stand by your side

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Nothing to be ashamed of.  It's important your able to speak in order to get on with your life.  I would hate you to bottle it up, this is unhealthy.

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