Super long story please bear with me.

18 months ago my husband had an affair at work, an emotional affair not physical. Still pretty shitty. We've Been having councelling for the last 6 months and it's honestly been so great. We're so much stronger. But they still work together. She makes ANY excuse to email him.

They're both training to be lawyers and they both need to apply to a department to qualify into in the next 2 months. She WON'T tell us where she's thinking if qualifying and it's stopping us from making any serious decisions regarding his career.

I'm at the point now where I wantto say look if you don't talk to us about this I'm going to tell you boyfriend about everything. I know it's really childish but, my marriage has been on the rocks and she still has her boyfriend and her career. While my husbands career is threatened by her. Am k being awful? And spiteful?

What would you do?