Who will be in delivering room/aloud to visit at hospital?

Mikala • I have an amazing 8 year old daughter and 7 year old son and two step sons and currently expecting bio baby in September
Okay I already have two children, currently pregnant with #3 and this will be the first with my husband! 
My issue is in the hospital with my first two children, I felt so overwhelmed and crowded and mad that everyone wanted to hold my baby when all I wanted to do was bond with my child, relax and try to sleep considering I had just given birth! So I've decided I just want my husband and I to be in the delivery room and of course have our children come meet there new brother or sister but I want my family to wait until we are home... Am I being selfish, or stubborn? I don't want anyone feeling left out but I also don't want to be overwhelmed!