Any epileptic mothers out there?

So I'v had epilepsy since I was 5 years old and have always been on medication for it to control the seizures. When I got engaged, and the chance of getting pregnant went up, the doctor changed my medicine to something else that has a lower rate of birth defects/ problems but there is always a risk. I'm 19 weeks pregnant and I see my obgyn and a specialist to monitor that everything is okay. I try to stay positive and just pray for a healthy child, but my husband told me how terrified was of the child not being healthy, soooo I cried myself to sleep that night. Just curious if there are any other women out there who are going through the same thing. Thoughts or suggestions?