Double Standards ?

Long story short - my husband and I have been having issues for the past several months. We have been making progress or at least I thought we were. According to him with time everything would eventually fall into place. So for the past give or take 2 months I felt we were 90% close to where we initially started prior to having issues. We have not been intimate since Sept because he needed that time to gather his thoughts etc - Last weekend we had friends over who stayed the night when they left in the morning first thing he did was threw me on the bed and we all know what happened after that. He said he couldn't wait for them to leave blah blah at this point I was like wow okay we're ok things are I would say 99.9% back to normal. Nothing was weird after this incident took place. This morning we were in bed and I started kissing him and he moved away so I tried again just thinking he was playing around then he said "stop" and just hugged me. This pissed the living shit out of me but I didn't say anything and just lay there and got up to shower. He acted as if nothing happened and nothing was wrong. I just confronted him and now he said I'm not ready? The fuck does that mean? So I said what the heck was last weekend then? He's like that just happened mutually which I agree and he said if I didn't want it to happen I should have stopped him ....... I'm not getting the double standards here. We had a full blown fight over this and he said yah when I feel it's right it'll happen fair enough so what your trying to say is if YOU want sex it's fine; however if it's initiated by me then it's not fine? Keeping in mind after last weekend he booked tickets for Europe so we can have "alone time" what I don't understand is that we're fucking alone at home and this happened what the hell is going away going to do? He said he needs time to cool down so he grabbed a few things and left.