How do you keep your relationship from breaking with young children?

Question

I'm not a mother, yet. In a few years I would love to start trying but there's one thing I fear, losing what me and him have; love, respect and honesty. I've seen many people who look so happy but many where it seems one parents has been pushed to the side and sex, communication and respect are all lost. They seemed to be so happy before children though.

It really worries me that we will lose each other in the mist of life; work, kids and etc. How do you manage to stay focused on your significant other with children?

Answer

You just have to make your marriage your top priority. Kids will take ALL of your energy sometimes, but if you and your spouse are both 100% committed to keeping your relationship strong, you can do it. This means him helping you and giving you breaks from the kids, even after he has worked a long day, and it means you making an effort to seduce him, even when you feel tired and ugly and worn out. :) You can do it - it's not easy, but you can!

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Just remind yourself that you were a wife before you were a mother. You have to make time for your husband. With a new baby, it can be very difficult. But once the baby can sleep on their own, then it's time for your husband when they are napping and sleeping at night. (Of course you'll need momma time too, and by all means take that for yourself.) Thats the way we've managed it in my house. When my daughter is asleep, my husband and I sit and talk or do other things that couples do... Also, if you have friends or family that can watch the baby, then go out and enjoy dinner or another activity you did before the baby. You'll feel better as a couple.

This may be a little controversial but I feel parents in this country are taught by the parenting culture that their lives must revolve around their children and that couldn't be further from the truth.

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Sometimes it's hard trying to find time with your SO when kids are constantly around. It helps that their grandmother's want to spend time with them so we fit in our date nights around those times. Also after the kids go to bed, even if we're tired we stay up another hour or so to talk or just be in each other's company.

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Put each other first. Make a conscious effort to keep romance in your relationship. Team up, and help each other out. Learn to laugh things off, and go to each other about everything. Talk to him about everything. If you constantly work on your relationship and make it your top priority, things will be easier. One last thing, take the time to let him know you appreciate him.

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My man and I are having that exact issue 😩 and its so not my fault! He would pick up our daughter every time she made a noise in her sleep when she was a newborn... He got her use to being held and now we are having a hard time getting her to sleep alone...

How do you keep your relationship from breaking with young children?

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