Am I taking this the wrong way? 😔

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So my husband was trying to start "naughty time" with me(6 months pregnant) so I sort of hinted him going down on me(he hasn't been down on me in ages..this whole year and many more months)and he's giving me the "ehh" face(like didn't want to)..(oh but he loves head! That's all he ever wants)..so than I tell him why not..and he said "ahh not while you're pregnant" so I ask why? And he just said I don't know...so now I'm over here crying my eyes out..do you think I'm being silly/immature for taking it the wrong way?😣😭😩😪

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Lol silly and immature? No. Pregnant and a bit sensitive? Likely. I think we've all cried over far more petty things while pregant. I mean if my guy said this to me my feelings would be hurt pregnant or not.

I once cried because my bf put the groceries downstairs instead of upstairs........ Being pregnant makes you a big cry baby lol it's normal!!!

P.S. Tell him not to be so selfish and to return the oral favors.

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It's really because the baby! Not because your pregnant it's the fact that the baby's there! Men are really weird like that trust me!!

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I cried because my husband ate my last jar of pickled onions, so you're definitely not being silly! It's really easy to get your feelings hurt when you're pregnant because you're already worried yourself about how different you look and feel. I showed a picture I took of my bump to my husband and he said "we need to get some cream for your stretch marks" and I was upset for ages about that! But with sex, sometimes guys can get a bit weird when you're pregnant. Not with you, but just with the idea of a baby being there. Every time we're about to get down my hubby says "are you comfy? Is this okay? Am I hurting the baby?" Haha it's a mood killer but I know it's just a weird thought for him :) but you should definitely talk to your hubby and ask him why he didn't want to do oral, what it is about doing it while pregnant that freaked him out. I'm sure he'll open up and it'll put your mind at rest! :)

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I wouldn't ever ask my SO to go down on me while pregnant. You have increased CM, your vagina is swollen and sometimes discolored from the extra blood flow, I can't see to really keep it neat, your vaginal smell is stronger and different, some women leak pee, but I also wouldn't give my SO head while pregnant I couldn't imagine having my pregnancy nose down by their ball sac an ass hole.

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If he said "not while you're pregnant" he probably feels weird about being down there. Like he's closer to the baby that way or something and he probably thinks however he feels is stupid so he doesn't want to voice it to you...trust me it has nothing to do with his feelings toward you...obviously he still finds you attractive because he's trying to have "naughty time" lol

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Men get weird during pregnancy sometimes. Heck I get weird during pregnancy! During my first pregnancy I wouldn't swallow his cum because I had this irrational thought that I would essentially be feeding my baby his potential brothers and sisters! Seriously! It got to the point where I didn't even want to give him oral because I was so disgusted by that thought, which I know is absolutely ridiculous. It's like men not wanting to have sex because they might poke the baby or something, the probably just has some weird anxiety that he may be embarrassed to explain. Don't take it personally, really. It's not YOU, it's him and his thoughts.

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I had had same problem, but my husband says that I smell different. He says not bad but strong and he has trouble with it. At first I was offended but I started to notice it and now I don't want him down there anyway. I checked for infections and I have none, so I figure it's hormonal.
Some guys feel weird knowing its close to baby too.

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We're the opposite. He wants to and I can't let him cause I can't see down there to make sure everything is good to go lol.

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I thought this was just my husband!! I'm glad I'm not the only one! I cried too... He said it tastes and smells different down there now that I'm pregnant. Idk if that's true or not but as soon as this baby pops out and I'm cleared he can't use that excuse anymore. Lol

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So, he wants his needs fulfilled, but not yours? "Not while you are pregnant" is not a satisfactory answer. It's safe for the baby. Although I hear that the smell/taste can change somewhat during pregnancy. But you would probably be able to tell if you smelled a bit different. If he wants sex, make him work for it!

Am I taking this the wrong way? 😔

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