Im considering having a baby but, my boyfriend has 3 children with 3 other women. They aren't a problem and don't effect my life but its a lot to grasp my mind around. What would you do?

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That's 3 different child support payments can he afford a 4 th child

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If his other children don't affect your life then that probably means he isn't a good father to them which is a red flag. Just because the relationship ends doesn't mean he's no longer a parent. If I'm wrong and he's an amazing father to all three then go ahead but if he's anything short of that (unless the mothers are stopping him) then don't do it.

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I couldn't imagine giving a man his 4th child and be a 4th baby mama. Is he a miraculous father to the 3 he already has? I'd also be afraid he cannot commit after said baby is had (I would wait until marriage if I still believed he was the one). But that's just me. Best of luck in whatever you decide.

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Sorry but as a woman that has a "baby father" who has two other bms , it's definitely NOT worth it!. Even though when I first met him he only had ONE child so I didn't think it was a big deal. Especially since I was engaged. Long story short, he cheated on me and got the "3rd" baby mama pregnant with twins. Anyway you deserve sooo much better !!!! Know your worth girl. Do you really want to be the possibly "forth" baby mama and no ring. There's a reason why he has "3" baby mamas watch the warning signs.

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Having 3 kids with 3 different women isn't something that "just happens". This is indicative of a pattern of behavior. Impulsive, irresponsible behavior. He probably falls "in love" fast and because he has a baby with someone already, he likely wants to make his new relationship just as serious or more serious with the new person. Then things fall apart. If his kids don't effect your life, that means he's not being a father. Why would his fourth child suddenly bring about a desire in him to be involved? He probably isn't a good partner during pregnancy and child rearing and ends up getting cut loose. I'd assume he is probably selfish... who with 3 children has the time in their lives to go and find a new partner to reproduce with? Who has the money to contemplate having yet another child? He also has never made a real commitment to ANY of these women, he leaves them to raise his kid alone. I highly doubt you are going to be the one to break this pattern in him. If you want to be, then think about doing things differently than he's done them the last 3 times, wait for a real commitment from him.

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Thats a huge red flag to me and a whole lot of drama.

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I'm dating a guy with 3 different Babymamas and honey let me tell you .. just wait or go the other way , unless he is something amazing to his kids and you , the stress , financial, and among other things becomes overwhelming..

Im considering having a baby but, my boyfriend has 3 children with 3 other women. They aren't a problem and don't effect my life but its a lot to grasp my mind around. What would you do?

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