Relationship problems

I have been in a relationship with my other half going on 10 years in november. We constantly fight over the dumbest stuff and he's always eager to find the negativity in ANY situation. I constantly find myself at the other end of the negativity..such as name calling, being put down and im tired of it. I love him i really do but i can only take so much. Im normally a very happy go lucky gal. Lately its just been the same day in and day out..ladies do you have any advice?! Please and thanks in advance