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So, my father in law gave my husband an ultimatum...we either have to live beside of them or my husband has to leave me...we just got married on May 16th...my husband has not left but I'm not sure I'm ever going to able to forgive my father in law for even saying that. I'm a Christian and I know it's wrong to hold grudges but that's just not okay...right?! Or am I the one being difficult?!
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Fortunately for you, your FIL can't divorce you. Sounds like he's gonna have to get over it.

Kr

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Especially since you are a Christian I hope you appreciate the fact that the Bible says that a man is to leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife! You're Father in Law no longer has control of his son. There should be no ultimatum to it!

Kr

Kristi • Jun 26, 2015
By the way, that's mentioned 4 times in the Bible. Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:5, Mark 10:7, & Ephesians 5:31

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I have a questions, why doesn't your husband tell him no? He's a grown, married man.

Am

Amy • Mar 2, 2016
wow, my ex family was same way they liked me till we divorced.. ex fil bails my ex out of everything.. my ex is 47. I'd put boundaries down..hopefully since you posted things have gotten better..

Kh

Kh • Jun 26, 2015
At 36, his father can't tell him what to do or not to do. Your FIL sounds evil, it is better to stay far far away.

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notgonnalie🐟 • Jun 26, 2015
you need to seriously think about whether you want to stay married to a man who will not stand up to his parents on something like this. If your husband didn't put his foot down the second your FIL suggested divorce as a manipulative tool, you have a lot to think about.

Ca

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Uhh first off he's crazy! Get into the house that your offer was accepted no matter how far from them it is. He can't force his son to divorce you. He sounds a little possessive of his son. And that is unhealthy in a ton of ways. I wouldn't live next to them. Especially after he gave his son that alitmatum 

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Yeah. That's too bad. Move wherever you want. You didn't marry your FIL. 

Ca

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What happens if you do neither? I'm curious as to what the ultimatum is. If he says he will cut you off.... Yay, lucky you! Sounds like a prehistoric bully to me, your partner needs to grow a pair and man up. 

Je

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I wish I was you so I could give him a piece of my mind. Oh LAWD!!!! That's the most ridiculous thing I've heard alllll day. Heck no. Move as far away as possible. Set boundaries NOW because it'll only get worse when you guys have kids.

em

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Sounds like your FIL needs to get over it:)

Sh

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Tell him to kick rocks and the two of you go adult.

Mi

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At 36 your husband needs to grow a pair and be the adult he is. If money is the issue then go to the bank and see if you can get a loan. I'd be concerned your husband didn't immediately tell his father to go screw. this should not even be a debate. And I agree with another poster... The bible even states the man leaves his family for his wife. Find the verse, print it out, and show them both. 
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