My SO and I have been together for four years. We aren't married yet because we are trying to finish school and honestly can't afford it right now. My future mother in law can be really sweet, but sometimes she can be downright vicious.

The first year we dated, she warned my SO about my future ability to be a mother since my father wasn't apart of my life growing up- I would most likely end up addicted to drugs or alcohol, and wouldn't be capable of raising my children correctly. My SO was so offended and hurt and I was pissed. Eventually I forgave her, but the last three years there have just been sly comments (like I should cut down on the carbs) and little things like that.

I'm 20 and my SO is 21. I live at home but work almost 70 hours a week to pay for my tuition and help my mom with bills. My SO is home for the summer to work before moving back to a different state for school in August. His mom insisted that he had to live at home with them, and now is blaming me for keeping him away from home (I saw him twice last week, maybe for an hour in between work) and saying that I am responsible for what she assumes is his money spending - which, he isnt, but is putting into savings.

This rant turned much longer than I expected but I guess I am just hurt. I realize we both still live at home, but I'm trying to take care of my responsibilities so we can look at getting engaged next year, and she keeps interfering with things that frankly aren't her business. When I confront him about it he thinks I'm making her words seem harsher than they are, which isn't true. She's confronted my mom and my mom takes it the same way. I don't know what to do, and honestly I'm so sick of it. I love him to death and leaving him because of his mother is NOT an option, but the thing we fight about most in our relationship is his mother. Do any of you have any similar situations or advice?