How do I get rid of the mindset of what-ifs?

Question

I really want to try for a VBAC this time but I can't help but feel shaky and not confident enough in my decision. I can't help but think what if something goes wrong? 
 
Plus, the people around seem as hesitatant as ever instead of supporting me which adds to my self-doubt.

How do I change this mentality and become more confident that I can do it?

Answer

Find birth affirmations online and read them where ever you have doubts. 
Take a class (Birth Boot Camp covers vbac, Bradley is good). It's hard to be scared of something you completely understand. 
Get moving! Yoga/swimming/walking and chiropractic care can really get your body in top shape to deliver and help baby get into optimal position. 
Eat clean. You are what you eat and your baby is growing their brain and lungs on what you put in your mouth. Make a pinch smoothies and make sure you're getting enough water. 
You can do it!

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What if something goes wrong? What if it doesn't work out? Then you end up with another c section and at least you know you tried!! It is better to try and not succeed, them not try at all! Now, all that being said, having supportive people around you, particularly your doc or midwife is of the utmost importance. If your doc isn't supportive, leave and find someone who is! I truly believe it made all the difference for me. There are tons of success stories you can find. Read up on them. You can do it!! I'm getting ready to have my 3rd VBAC in Sept. Best decision I ever made! If I hadn't switched docs after my first csection, I would have ended up with repeat sections, not what I wanted! Be an advocate for you and your sweet angel!

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There's a group called iCan. It's an amazing group of support for vbac, I joined it and it has encouraged me so much and given me the mind set that I can do it. I will be trying for a vbac after 2 c sections. My midwives are amazingly supportive and I will be doing it in hospital "just in case" something does need immediate attention.

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I'm not trying to scare you but life is full of what-ifs.

What if I slip in the shower?
What if I crash the car?
What if I have a c-section?
What if I have a VBAC?
What if that chicken is spoiled?

Life is full of risks, you just have to decide what is best for YOU and your family.

Good luck and try not to fret over the what-ifs. Stressing out is not good, pregnant or not.

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Get an awesome midwife! And maybe a Doula. The risks are less than 2%. Don't get induced and don't let them bully you! Your body was made to grow and birth babies. It knows what it is doing. Don't let anyone convince you that your body is a lemon.

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Everything I was going to suggest has already been suggested 😀 I would love to hear an update!?

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Get a doula or use a midwife. Midwives have a really great track record with VBACs. Doctors tend to ere on the side of caution and start scrubbing up at the slightest beep that doesn't seem quite right.

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Join the calm birthing classes, hypnobirthing classes, watch calm birth videos.. meditate.. truet your body..

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Read “little ways to keep calm and carry on”
Don’t entertain the “what if’s” . That will only strengthen your anxiety. Recognize them as anxious thoughts and let them go.
Meditate. It can be hard to learn, but you can do it. There’s guided meditations on iTunes or you can download apps that make it easier.
Yoga, walk, get some extra energy out and get those endorphins flowing.

How do I get rid of the mindset of what-ifs?

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