What I won't tell the next mommy to be

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Am I the only one to say that since I found out I was pregnancy, everybody I came across had the most worst thing to say to me about pregnancy, things like I'm going to be so huge, kiss my cute bonds goodbye, I'm going to have crazy stretch marks,my boobs are going to grow as big as watermelons, I'm never going to be the same.

It's crazy. I haven't really met much mommies to just say to me, "your pregnancy will be whatever you make it. Congrats" you know just something positive.

Why is it?  That when we tell people we are pregnant we normally (or it may just be in my case) that everyone has to tell you the horrid stories. It's almost like you don't get a lot of good stories or positive feedback.

I'm 36wks and I must say. Everything anyone told me about me gaining weight, getting stretch marks, getting swollen, boobs growing huge didn't happen. Since my pregnancy I only gained 17lbs (had my dr appt today to confirm) I can still fit my old clothes, I didn't get any stretch marks. My boobs only went up a cup size. Which you can't even notice. And I don't get swollen.

So I know for me, if I ever come across anyone who is excepting I will not scare them into thinking they will lose themselves. I will encourage them to enjoy their pregnancy.

***Note, I know some women do this in good nature. But some, some actually do it just to scare you. And that's wrong. ***

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My "best friend" made me think pregnancy was going to be the absolute worse thing that could ever happen to you. Mind you I had a miscarriage 3 months prior that ended terribly so it was kind of fucked up for her to put those thoughts in my head. When actually I've had the most incredible pregnancy ever. Everything she said would happen didn't and well she's actually pissed that I didn't have a bad pregnancy. Currently 36 weeks pregnant and gave up talking to her because she's so damn negative about everything.

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Amen. I haven't dealt with it but I'm only 11 weeks and not many people know but I don't want scary stories or things to freak me out in already stressed enough why not give me good advice like what to pack for the hospital or what baby does/doesn't need or remedies for morning sickness idk lol

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With my 1st pregnancy I almost felt as though they were only asking if I was a FTM so they could tell me horrid stories! I don't know why they do this to expecting mothers. It's horrible! The thing that really gets to me is the women who purposely do this for the fun of it. Just because you had a horrible pregnancy & you let it ruin you & lost your since of self, you don't have to take it out on the next pregnant woman. This doesn't go for all women because there are some women who don't realizing that they are doing it, but why is it so hard for many women to encourage & strengthen other women?

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Everyone's pregnancy is different and to compare them is crazy,  like my pregnancy with my daughter wasn't so great,  but the labor?  Fast, not easy because I chose to have no pain blockers for personal reasons.  But my labor from the time I got to the hospital til I delivered her was only 6 hours and I only pushed for 5 minutes. But others have crazy birth stories where they were in labor for 3 days and pushed for 12 hours. Insane.  This pregnancy so far has been better than my last,  still sock but not nearly as bad as last time.

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No one has been like that with me, thank goodness. I think it shocked people when they would ask if I had been sick and the answer was no. So they would just tell me all their horror stories from being pregnant instead of ruining my nice pregnancy. I do warn people not to do this in the summer. But that's just a courtesy. It's too dang hot to be making a baby!

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I feel like no one prepared me to how stressful being pregnant is and how big of an emotional roller coaster it is. The physical stuff is manageable, except the bloating. Ha ha. Glad you've had a good pregnancy!

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Your just lucky

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I wish people would have told me those horror stories. I was always told good things and when I got huge stretch marks and my boobs went from a 36 b to a 40DD and I gained 50 lbs (which was all good I didn't care) but then I had my son, and my boobs deflated, I had 50 lbs to loose, and I just wasn't prepared... I was in shock. So it can be either way

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I had a close friend that got pregnant when my son was born, so a lot of the things I told her were things that happened to me. But I would say "this may not happen to you, but if it does don't freak out, it's normal." Where I live women always act like pregnancy is the easiest thing they've ever done. You could catch them throwing up in the bathroom crying and they would try to convince you it didn't happen, "because I'm great and I LOVE BEING PREGNANT!" Some honestly do love it, but we're taught not to let anyone outside your family know you aren't doing well. I've told women I hated being pregnant with my son, and if I could have ordered him in the mail I would have lol, and they'll lean in and whisper, "oh my god, I thought I was the only one." No one shares the bad parts of pregnancy. So with my friend, it was more to help her and let her know hey, this happened to me and it's normal if it happens to you.

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I'm getting swollen and my boobs have gotten stretch marks (I'm only 22w5d, but they have gone from a 32A to a 34C!!!) and I've already gained 15 pounds.... But I am loving being pregnant. I love feeling my baby girl and even though I'm struggling with getting bigger some days, I wouldn't trade it for anything. 
I don't know why people are all so negative and rude.  I've had so many people tell me things like "oh just wait until you're covered in stretch marks" or "good luck losing the weight after"... I even had someone tell me to not be too excited after my first ultrasound because she miscarried after her first one when everything looked fine (keep in mind I've miscarried and gone through infertility)... Even just recently I posted on fb about my baby girl measuring small, but everything looked good otherwise, so I'm thinking she's just going to be little, which I'm not complaining about lol! And I had some friends saying things like "just hope she doesn't come out 10lbs" and "they're probably wrong, they said my baby was small and he came out 9lbs" etc etc..... 
Like I'm 5'2, 110lbs before pregnancy... I really doubt I'm having a 10lb baby 😑😑😑😑😑

I definitely make sure I don't say junk like that to people, and only encourage them.  No one wants to receive negativity from someone during what should be one of the happiest times of a woman's life!

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