Do I need help?

Question

I feel like I might need mental help. My dad raised four kids all on his own. My mom left when we were 9 months, 2 yrs(me), 3 yrs, and 5 yrs old. My dad had to raise us all with no help from anyone, my mom never paid a dime in child support. To this day, we still have no idea where she is😓 my dad is the greatest guy in the world. Everyday in the summer, he would bring us fishing, everyday even though we had no money would bring us each a candy bar after he was done with work. (Even when he was starving) he did everything he could to make us happy. I am so close with him, we talk everyday and I go visit every weekend.  My siblings aren't in the area anymore so I do not talk with them often. But... I feel like I will need mental help once my dad passes. I think that when he goes, I will need to as well. I couldn't live without him. Is this normal? 
I am 25, happily living with the man of my dreams, have a great little 1 year old, great job and car....but I keep wondering what I will do without my dad. I am also extremely shy, not sure why. I still, at 25 years old get picked on about it. So because of that, I have like 2 close friends.... Other than that. I don't like people haha.

Answer

You can always find a therapist to talk through your feelings, sometimes it's easier to talk to a stranger. Not only that but to have out side eyes n ears helps. And needing someone to talk to doesn't make you weak, it makes you smart for knowing that thus is gonna be hard and you may need help to work through it. The world put too much stigma on things like mental health so that people who do need help won't get it for fear of being made fun of.  If people are still picking on u for being shy you don't need them in ur life. I've found its much better to have a few great friends then a bunch of crapy ones. Losing a loved one is always hard , especially a parent but u have your partner to lean on as well. It's ok to cry but it's even better to still smile n laugh over the good times :)

Answer

I didn't read your whole post. The first sentence reading "I think I need mental help" is enough. If YOU feel it would be helpful to talk to someone to sort out yourself, do it.

Answer

Talk to your daddy about your fears I'm sure he will be able to give you the best advice of how to deal with that situation

Answer

I'm 26, married to the love of my life, and I'm super shy. My dad passed away when I was 17 and my mom had to support myself and my twelve year old brother all on her own. Even though she was grieving and experiencing the emotional pain that comes with a loss, she moved mountains to make sure my brother and I had food in our bellies and a roof over our heads. My dad was the bread winner so when he died, we took a huge financial hit. I got a job to help my mom out with rent and bills. My mom has taught me what it takes to be a strong, smart, independent woman. My mom has become my best friend. She doesn't have the best health so I constantly worry about her, and I cannot bare the thought of ever losing her. You don't need help, it's a perfectly understandable fear. Just try to get a support system for yourself and try to stay in contact with your siblings and enjoy every moment with your dad.

Answer

It's normal, in the sense that you grew so "dependent" of him, dependent in the sense that he was everything you had, and you and your siblings everything he had. I hope you didn't have to go through this, I went through something like this when I was 5 years old, and it was horrible, I had anxiety issues, desperation issues, i would cry non stop if I was left alone, I would always feel lonely, and you know what? I'm not going to lie, I've always felt lonely, my battle has never ended and it haunts me everyday still, I never reached out to a therapist or any counceling, which I should've. I'm okay now, I can talk about what happened without crying uncontrollably like before. What I'm trying to get at is, yes, we are all different and hurt different, you WILL get better. I know you love your dad to death, but don't put the idea in your head that when he's gone you're going to need extensive counseling or something, enjoy your time with your dad, and be positive and happy, he wouldn't like to see you all torn apart from heaven. 
You're supported, I don't know you, but I'm here for you, don't be afraid to reach out.

Answer

I don't think you need mental help. I think you'll just need lots of support. Losing a dear member of your family is very hard. It doesn't mean you need hospitalization. You can always talk to a therapist if you want to though. Just for extra support.

Answer

I feel the same way about my gram, I don't know what I will do with myself when she is no longer around!

Answer

My grandmother was my world. She pretty much raised me. My mother was a drunk and my dad was on heavy drugs. My grandma is where I learned how to do everything. I remember when my mother would whoop me in a drunk rage (whenever I actually went "home") my grandma came to my rescue. She passed away in 2011 and I just started counseling 3 months ago. I feel like I jumped off the deep end. I'm so miserable even though it's 4 years later and I'm married and he's perfect. (Me and him got together 2 months after she passed so she never met him). I'm trying not to cry writing this. So it will be hard. But just get some counseling and if your like me you'll be stubborn and avoid when he's trying to talk about serious feelings. But you'll eventually get better. Nothing will EVER be as good as your father but all you can do is live happy and remember him to the highest extent. Just remember that. Good luck honey. :)

Do I need help?

Let's Glow!

The Top Baby Tracker App: Embrace New Beginnings with Tender Care

The Top Fertility Tracker App: Your Path to Achieving Pregnancy

The Top Pregnancy App: Nurturing Your Journey to Motherhood

The Top Period Tracker for Empowering Your Menstrual Health Journey