Any Atheist or agnostic preg ladies here?

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I was wondering if anyone here is also atheist or agnostic.

I just wanted to reach out to my fellow secular moms to be to be for support. It can be hard to plan for a child when you have different views.

I am an atheist Jew (meaning I still exchange Hanukkah gifts and eat matzo ball soup, but I don't believe in a god) and my Fiancé is a atheist too. His family is very southern baptist and we are already struggling to find a way to include them in the baby's life without their faith involved.

This thread is not intended to be a religion bashing place! So please don't bash us!

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There is a group called "Atheists and agnostics of Glow". You may get a bit more responses there :-) You should be able to find it in the lifestyle section.

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I am am atheist, my husband is a liberal Christian who doesn't attend services. Both our families are very religious, especially mine. I'm not too worried about anything at this point. I don't want my child at my mother's church because I don't approve of their teachings, and I have no problem telling her so. I will include them how I include everyone else, birthdays, holidays, visits, all the normal family stuff. If they want to explain to my son the religious reasons they celebrate a holiday, I am fine with that. I will also be telling him why I celebrate it. He can make his own decisions about what he believes later on. If I feel a family member crosses a line, I will speak up. If it continues, time spent with them will be limited.

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My husband and I are both Atheists and I'm pregnant with my first.

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It's nice that you started this thread. Sometimes Glow feel a bit alienating. 
I was raised unprogrammed Friend (Quaker), which is so delightfully liberal and lacking any dogma, that I feel I can fit anywhere. I'm certainly not religious, and my beliefs are pretty personal and private.
My SO was raised Catholic, so, basically the opposite of me. His parents are divorced, so that will hopefully keep some of the religion pushing at bay. So far so good anyway. We will see how MIL feels. 
I hope that our variously rather religious family members are open and kind, but I suppose I'm not going to bend over backwards to please them either.

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Thank you for posting this! So pleased to see  other secular people here.

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I am pretty sure my MIL will want to take the little one to church at some point.  And I think it's actually ok once in a while.  You can't shield them from religion completely.  
In fact I think one should have a good idea about world religions, their differences and commonalities (I'll have to make sure it's not one-sided). Knowledge is power! 
Then "Grandma's" religion is just one of them. It can be treated with respect, while not taken at face value, but as more of a tradition than anything else.

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I'm having the same issue. Me and my wife are agnostic bordering atheists and my family is Jehovah's witnesses her family is southern baptist. We have told them we don't want religion forced on our child when he's here but I don't think it's getting through. We are vegan as well which is something else they don't agree with saying they will give our son meat. We are to the point where we have decided our son will never be left alone with our families. I hate feeling that way. I wish we could trust that they will respect our wishes but I don't see that happening.

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I'm agnostic. Each to their own but I'm not interested in that stuff. Still think there must be a bit more to life but I'm open to what that should be (but don't try and push your crap on me, people!) ;)

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I feel ya! I am just waiting to be questioned about getting our baby baptized by my husbands family. Both my husband and I don't believe in God and his parents won't be too bad they respect our decisions, but his sister and brother in law are crazy about it! And his brother in laws parents! Idk why they want to push their views on us (the bro in laws parents) they are not even our family! They take it as far as they wouldn't let his sister kids were any clothes with skulls or anything cool on it! Lol

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I'm sorry you're worried about extended family forcing things on your child :-(
I would set ground rules NOW! And tell them if they can't be followed, they will not have any alone time with kiddo. Thankfully, babies are babies....I can't see anyone trying to teach bible lessons to a crying and pooping infant, so you'll have some time before they're old enough and I'd start getting worried. 
My husband and I are both atheists too (not pregnant yet though) but its only his grandparents we are really worried about (our parents are all various forms of agnostic). I'm not too worried - I can stick up to one grandmother at a time and just lay the rules. It would be more difficult if hey were my parents.

Any Atheist or agnostic preg ladies here?

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