Boyfriend called me a big baby?

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I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year. I've rarely cried in front of him (we've had a pretty happy relationship) however, whenever we argue or have an issue and I cry he tells me I'm being a "big baby." This has happened almost every time I've cried after a fight.

Since when does having human emotion a bad thing? I sometimes cry after arguments because I hate arguing and negativity. Apparently I'm just being a big baby.

What do you think?

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No body has the right to invalidate your feeling. They are yours. Tell him he needs to stop.

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"I'm a big baby that gives a shit about our relationship."

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He sounds a bit immature.. If he can't handle you at your worst then he doesn't deserve you at your best. You should not be bullied into bottling your emotions.

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That's something within him. He's obviously carrying some kind of baggage that causes him to view crying as such. Maybe try, when everyone's calm, talking to him and if you can find out where that comes from. Maybe that's how his dad trained to crying? You may not be able to change his thinking on it, not without therapy lol, but at least understand his and maybe get to explain yours as well. And if he cares about you, then he should care about how that makes you feel too.

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Ah some men find tears a form of blackmail. Sometimes their mothers used tears for that reason at home and they lose their tempers when their SO does it too. Could this be the situation with him? He might find it frustrating that you're so sensitive when really he just wants to vent some anger/annoyance. I am sensitive also so I'm not slagging you off for being sensitive.

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This doesn't seem like an issue. You guys are who you guys are....

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Did you talk to him about it?

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I think reactions to crying are generally a behaviour people learn from their family & peers as they grow up. Some learn that there's nothing wrong with feeling. Others learn that it means you're weak & you shouldn't do it. Some learn that it's just a way to manipulate others. And so on. So it could just be his upbringing. That doesn't mean he will retain that reaction forever. He may get used to it being normal as the relationship goes on and he experiences it more from you. But you never know, he could continue to react like that. Either way, its not really acceptable to call a crying adult a baby. I could see if it was over something petty, but its fine and normal to get upset enough over negativity or arguments to cry. Especially if the person rarely encounters negativity, so it's more stressful to them than the average person might find it.

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I feel this to be a bit of emotional abuse. He is invalidating your feelings and putting you down because of them. If he gets annoyed by your crying he could tell you he rather a to talk to you when you have calmed down. 
Calling you big baby in that type of situation is not ok. It shows some lack of empathy and disregard for your feelings.

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I'd be like, "excuse me bitch? I AM baby, I am not A baby. You can leave"
Name Callinf in a relationship, unless both parties KNOW it's a joke, is never, EVER okay IMO

Boyfriend called me a big baby?

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