Smoking!!?!?!

Question

My boyfriend and i both arent supposed to be smoking. I felt like it was unfair for him to be smoking with me pregnant. But he got a new job and started smoking when he's at it. I keep finding black and mild in his work pants. We have talked about but i keep give him a second chance. 
Its not even the smoking thats pissing me off its that he keeps lying to me.

Any advice?? I only have 5 more week until our baby is here..

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You could bring up to him that 2nd/3rd hand smoking is dangerous to the baby. If it were me, I'd definitely want my husband to quit for good before the baby got here.

Whenever I have smelled cigarette smoke during my pregnancy, it made me super queasy. You could use that line if you wanted too.

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It's only 5 weeks! Plus it's something you both used to do,he's not smoking crack,obviously he has found it hard to stick to n atleast he's doing it at work not in front of u,honestly it's not worth the argument in my opinion

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My brother in law smoked and just outside his  partner placenta was just as bad as a smokers and she never once had one or was around him when he did its gross to think just how much comes off his skin with sweat or clothes with a hug I'm not judging just stating a random fact that I found interesting

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Smoking isn't healthy... But smoking isn't the problem or concern.... It's the WHY is he smoking in the first place? Anxious? Tangled up about past? Future stresses? That's the real heartbeat of the issue. I also wonder if he's ashamed and insecure to talk about that and so he hides it. Give him some grace... But lead him into that conversation gently and express your needs clearly. It's a heart issue.

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If the agreement was that he would stop and he isn't, I would be upset. I would never ask my fiancée to give up something just because I couldn't do it but if that's what you both decided on, he is being incredibly disrespectful by going behind your back. I would bring it up nicely with something like "I keep finding these and I thought we had an agreement. I don't appreciate being deceived and if you'd like to discuss this, I would be happy to be open and discuss both of our feelings and concerns so we are on the same page."

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