Anyone else feeling pressured?

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My sisters wedding is 3 mo after I'm due and I'm Matron of honor. Anyways since I've announced my pregnancy she's asked once a week "Will you be back to your prepregnancy size fast enough? Your dress can only maximum be let out to a size 4 you'll have to be able to minimally fit that or you'll have to sit out.

I've had so much pressure from her dumped on me that I'm seriously now considering not breast feeding so I can instantly cut my cals to the right amount to lose and add in supplements to power through the insane work outs I did before becoming pregnant.

This morning she brought it up again and I finally snapped saying "Fine! I'll just give birth then not eat and walk around with leg weights, wrist weights and a freaking weighted vest on 24/7 is that ok? Will that make you feel better? You won't have a fat person in your bridal party to ruin your day!"

She's had a baby, less than 2 yrs ago. The difference here is I refuse to spend all of my time calculating every single calorie like she did and only "allowing" myself to gain 15lbs and end up on bed rest and all that other bs she weight through because the dr kept getting mad that she refused to eat more because she didn't want to be a "fat cow of a mom".

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Um I would be telling her If she's that concerned she can find a new matron of honor! Your health and your babies health is far more important then her wedding or what size you are.

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Food I read that right?  You are considering changing your feeding plan to for into a dress for one day?  Don't let her crazy wear off on you

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I would never consider not breastfeeding in order to fulfill someone else's standards for MY body. I think it is so selfish and disgusting when brides put a weight limit on their bridal party. You shouldn't put people in your wedding based on how they look, it's about having close family and friends there to support you. Honestly, if I was in your situation, I would say "I will be doing what's best for me and the health of my baby and if that's not up to your standards, f-off."

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3 months is a pretty long time to get where you need to be, how much have you gained? Even with my first I lost the 45 I gained by 3 months and I was overweight to begin with. With my second I only gained 6 and list 20, yes 20, in one week. Not breastfeeding would be a bad idea, it burns so many calories super fast. Tell your sister to deal with it and stop being so superficial

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My friends matron of honor had the same issue. Her boobs hadn't gone down enough to fit in her dress after 2 months so they let her wear a similar but special matron dress.

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My best friend's wedding is four months after I give birth. I could never imagine her telling me something like that, never the less my sister. If I were in your shoes, I would have quit that wedding. There is no way I would even consider taking something so important away from my child in order to please a brat for one day.

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I am dealing with the same exact thing right now!!!! But not my sister, my best friend and moh in my wedding. I feel like I can't even talk to her about my pregnancy because she wants everything to just be about her wedding. Which by the way is 600 miles away from where I live. So after I give birth in March I have to travel two separate times up north for her shower and bachelorette party in May. And then travel up a third time for her wedding in June. She has been planning her wedding Now for 2 years and she posted on fb a week ago saying she is going to be selfish this next year and everything will be about her. She knew we were going to start ttc right after our wedding, and we did and got Prego the first month. But at my wedding she had the nerve to tell me that I had 2 months to get Prego bc I'm not allowed to be Prego in her wedding. I thought it was a horrible thing to say... It would've never ever crossed my mind to say that to any of my bridesmaids. She hasn't chosen our dresses yet. Hopefully she picks something that will be easy for me to estimate what size I'll be lol.

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Ummmm excuse my language but Eff her! No you do what is best for your child (breastfeeding)! If she is sooo concerned with how you will look at her wedding then she has her priorities way out of whack and that is her problem not yours. Don't let her make you feel bad or pressure you into doing unhealthy things because she is more worried about appearances. And if she ends up having you "sit out" of her wedding she is the one who will regret it and she is the one who will look like a jerk.

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My brother in laws wedding is 3 months after I give birth too! I'm honestly trying to exercise now so that I don't put on too much weight but it's so hard!

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