Need endo surgery

Anonymous • 24, married, TTC for almost 3 years. Love the app, community, and support from y`all lovely ladies.
Just wondering how you guys manage to get your doctor to finally approve you for surgery? My last was Dec 2012, and I was told I would need another op 6-8 months after that, but I moved country and had to start again. Since then, I've been trying so hard to get referred to ob/gyn. Now I'm in Oregon and have a lovely doctor but she's taking forever with my referral, even though I've been in and out of the ER in absolute AGONY, and have been TTC for 3 years. Now I can't even continue with TTC because it's painful to have sex, which is also causing huge problems with my marriage. I'm losing my mind, needing surgery, in pain, can't even satisfy my husband, and my pain is every day now. Tylenol and ibuprofen, and all the normal stuff just isn't working anymore. Any tips? 
Thanks in advance, ladies!