Does your SO know you masturbate?

Rebecca • "You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough." YASSSSSSssss.
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Mine does, but it definitely confused him at first. I had to explain the difference to him. In my mind, sex is for intimacy/hornyness. Masturbation is for relaxation. It's nothing against him. It's just time I need for myself. 
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My SO loves the fact that I do. He thinks it's hot. Lol There's nothing wrong with it in my mind 

Mi

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My husband doesn't care that I do. I had to explain to him that orgasms from penetration and clitoral stimulation are two totally different things for me.

Ta

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We watch porn together. He's away for his job right now and not having him close kills me so it's like "here's the link babe press play at 10:15" and we text about it making fun of the actress and actors. I feel like it brought us closer because that's such a private thing and to have someone else so close with you idk I feel is showing love I guess. 

Ju

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Mine does- it takes too long for me to get off. Sex is nice and feels good (better then an organism) masterbating is just to have that release like "freakin FINALLY!!" I use a magic wand with speed control (HIGH SPEED =OMG in 5 mins) it used to take me 20-40 mins. Pain in the butt! Sex is to be intimate and show him I love him and also it reaches a spot that feels great that masterbating can't reach. He used to get me off every time- never had a vaginal organism just clit. Don't know if it's possible actually. I would just rather get off on my own then make him spend along time and exhaust his arm and mouth ha know ahaha. 

Mi

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Sometimes I feel like I NEED to masturbate to ease stress whenever my SO is out at work. I just never make time to actually do it. Does it help with stress?

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Audrey • Aug 18, 2015
Yessss it does.

Li

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I don't do it...  It just feels wrong to me ,I want him and only him to give me pleasure. 

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Liana • Aug 17, 2015
What do you mean? I know what I like, but a relationship isn't just about sex. I just feel weird if I'm doing it alone without him.

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Marie • Aug 17, 2015
How do you know what you like

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Marie • Aug 17, 2015
Lmao good luck my friend

Gi

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Mine does. I have to once daily to get through the day. He doesn't have a high sex drive either so he's well aware I do haha 

Ha

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Mine knows I do...and I know he does. We actually find it attractive when we watch each other do it or when we are on the phone doing it. We don't have sex very often because I live with my mom and she doesn't like the fact that I am 16 and sexually active, so whenever we want to, I have to be at his house.....which almost never happens

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Hannah • Aug 17, 2015
Yes. Yes it is

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Marie • Aug 17, 2015
Phone sex is awesome

Sh

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We both do it. He tells me when he watches porn and master bates. I don't care honestly. 

Ko

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He's my first and after having sex with him... Masturbating just isn't the same. But yeah he knew I masturbated before... He liked it I don't think he'd be bothered by me doing it now but I just don't. If I did masturbate now it'd be to the thought of him and we'd be apart for some reason.