Relationship help /rant

No matter what I say or want it's never what in want. I try and have a serious talk with my boyfriend about our relationship and future and he shuts down every time. When I say am going to leave him he's states am not bagging you to stay. It really hurts me when he says that because it's like he doesn't care how I feel or want. It's his way or fuck you sorry for the poor language. I've been with this man for 8 years and I want more. But he wants to wait 4 years to make his moves. Idk if I can wait, I love him and want to make a future with him but their compromise. I don't know what to do anymore or even how to feel. Am happy in our relationship I just want more if that makes any sense.