Do I tell him about my dirty talk boy? Lol

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So hub and I are not living together. It's been about 6 months of being totally separated.  We haven't gotten divorced yet, but planned on filing in the next couple weeks. I've been so incredibley angry. Apparently he cheated with my best friend... (Ex best friend)... When I say short term I mean apparently 2 years ago when i was out of town for business the two got drunk and hooked up two nights in a row... I did not find out about this until my husband told me he felt bad about it and wanted to tell me. I was pisse and kicked him out. I told myself I'd never talk to him... Felt betrayed....... During our separation he did not give up on me. He did anything and everything to try to prove I was who he loved and he wanted me to trust him again.

Any way, Fast forward right after separation... started chatting with this guy online.  It was harmless and I talked to him because he listened to me vent about my situation. Perfectly normal guy in tre sense he seemed normal.....fast forward another few months after weekly convos and we both mutually decided we wanted to hook up... We never actually did but we talked about it online and dirty talked (sorry if too much info but I haven't had sex in months...). I made the initiative to talk with him becuz I was lonely and angry.  I knew I woudknt actually carry our plan out. Was just horny lol and he the way he talked to me was the hottest (sorry if tmi)

Any way fast forward to the present... my husband and I have decided to try living together again.  I hate to say the past is the past but I want to give him a chance. I'm starting to not be as angry. During our time not living together he proved he still loved me and proved I could trust him again.

My question is... Now that we are working on things do I tell him about my online dirty talk and sinful plans with this online bad boy?

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I wouldn't tell him, you guys were seperated..just close all contact with dirty talk boy x

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Yes. Because if he finds out later it'll damage your mutual attempts to rebuild your relationship.

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My personal opinion is that it's hypocritical for anyone to say you shouldn't tell him. Even if you're separated, you're still married. You would be devastated if you found out he was doing to same even though you were angry with him. I don't know how you intend to work things out as long as you have a dirty little secret. 
I really think there is a lack of respect here from both fronts. You can't have a strong relationship when you lack respect for each other.

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It's not a big deal, you were separated anyway, what he did was far worse, I give you credit because I would never give a cheater another chance. You didn't cheat, what you do while you're separated is your business. It's innocent flirting. I don't see the need of telling him.

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I would tell him, let him know nothing happened, you were upset and angry and talking to this guy helped you through everything but you are serious about working things out with your husband and want nothing to do with this other guy. He was just a rebound. That keeps the truth in your relationship and it can never come back to bite you in your butt.

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It's easy to want something bad after you lose it. He will probably just cheat on you again once he knows he has you back.

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No why would you!! You weren't together and it will just cause problems..

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I don't think it is necessary it's not like you rltwo "pbysically"did anything.  Separated is seperated. My hubby and I seperated a few years back and we were both with another. We both realized we wanted each other and no one else. We both decided we didn't want any details of our time apart it would just hurt. why hurt him for an online fling?

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