Is it worth it?

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Idk about my relationship anymore.. All we do is fight and scream at eachother frankly I'm tired but I love him so much and I know he loves me. When I'm alone I image us married but the fact that the stupidest things are what we fight over really bugs me. Should I cut my losses before I invest more time in this relationship?

Update: we aren't married. Just boyfriend and girlfriend of 4 years we are 24

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Maybe you guys are growing up and growing apart. It happens to some couples when they get together young. They end up maturing(or not) and changing into different people as they get older and either grow together or grow apart. You are young take your time getting married, because you aren't even married yet and you are already questioning your relationship. Not a good time just yet

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It sounds like to me you like the idea of being married more than you love him. This rela is unhealthy and you need to break uo.

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Do you honestly love him? That's the question you should ask yourself first because if you dont, there's no point in trying when you know no matter what you do to try and make it better, the feelings aren't there.

If you do honestly love him, bickering isn't the end all but I can relate on how frustrating and damaging it can be in a relationship. I feel like most couples go through a rough patch at some point. My wife and I (together 7 years) are both extremely stubborn and used to bicker allllll the time. We talked things out (it took a few pretty deep convos) before we started to turn things positive and pick our battles. We'd be fighting over THE DUMBEST things like which way towels get folded 😂 we didn't realize how dumb it was until we looked outside of ourselves. You have to do what works for your relationship. Going to counseling isn't a bad thing either! It gives you and your man a totally unbiased perspective.

Do what's in your heart!! Good luck to you darling 💜

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How long have you been together?  If it's still fairly early, I'd start thinking about moving on.  If it's been a few years and you didn't always used to fight, then it might be worth working out  bc every couple has rough patches. But if it is early,  I find it hard to think things will change when this should be the honeymoon phase of a new and exciting relationship.  Good luck!

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If you really love him don't give up! And try not to fight back. If he says something that you don't agree or it makes you upset .. Just stay quite and don't let it get to you.  Think positive And try to do things that he likes or to make him happy.  If you see that you are putting too much effort and he still acting up  .. Then you need to start thinking about braking up.

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That happens a lot with my parents and me instead of screaming take a minute to relax then when u r both calm tell him how u feel and just compromise with each other and once u got it settled just appreciate being with him I know it's hard but as long as you both love each other and confide in one another you will be fine communication is the best thing to do

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Normally if you guys are fighting over the dumbest things is because there is a big thing that is bothering you... You just gotta pin point what it is and solve it. So sit down with him and brainstorm this.

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Think of it like this:
 - "When in doubt, throw it out." You fight to defend a love ~ not win one over.. Js 😏 remember this; he will be just as good for someone else as he is for you. 💥

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There is an underlying issue that no one is admitting to. Something is bothering one of you. Lets say he feels like hes not getting enough attention from you. Is affraid to admit that he needs more. So everything else becomes an issue because of this. You tell him this..."if there is something i am doing wrong i need you to tell me. I cant work on anything and make appropriate changes (if its needed and depends on what it is) unless you tell me"

Know one can fix an issue if they dont know what the problem is. Its like trying to fix a car and not being a mechanic....work together.  This works both ways. Dont be affraid to be open and honest. Sometimes the most roughest times in our lives happen because of small details. And if he is not willing to go through this with you then its time to pack and go. Its not going anywhere. ..

Good luck

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To be honest it sounds like MAYBE you should move on. Maybe you love him & vice versa, but sometimes that isn't enough. 
I promise you no relationship is perfect, BUT you shouldn't be stressed from constant fighting. Communication in any relationship is key.
Have you tried to talk to a counselor to work through this? Maybe try some different methods for dealing with your anger or irritation. For example, if you feel yourself getting upset & wanting to pick a fight, you tell him you're emotional & you need a minute to yourself. Go in another room & take some breaths to calm down. Then write down what upset you & why & explain how you feel it can be resolved. Then ask him to do the same. 
If you can't find a solution that keeps you from fighting, that isn't a healthy relationship for either of you & it may be time to really consider moving on.

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